Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the “boys will be boys” conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist! He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.
I know this guy, he is a very intelligent guy who focuses on his studies. He doesn’t like girls that are too clingy and I’ve broken up with guys in the past for being clingy. His father, along with my mother, are trying to set us up. We spent some time together and I loved it, I honestly started to fall for this guy. The huge issue is that we don’t go to college anywhere near each other and I don’t even know what he thinks about all of this. What should I do? – Falling at Framingham State
Falling,
what is the downside of sharing (more or less) these exact thoughts with this guy? I mean, you can change “starting to fall for you” to “I really like you” to avoid coming on too strong. But you sound like you have an appropriate outlook on the situation. You acknowledge that there is this issue about long distance and how that could be a potential road block.
So why not call him up or text him and see how he feels about the situation? You won’t come off as too clingy when you acknowledge that there would be difficulties in making a potential relationship work. All you are asking for in this situation is clarity. And there is nothing wrong with asking for clarity.
While thoughts and opinions will always need to be worded carefully, honesty will always be the best policy. Now in some situations it is important to “spare the details” but you have to get your point across. There is nothing worse, in my opinion, than wondering what could have been and not knowing why something didn’t work out.
In your particular situation, you have your mom and his dad backing you both up! They obviously realize the long distance issue but have set you guys up anyway. So there is extra incentive for this guy to give you the time of day. You shouldn’t worry about coming off as too clingy because you have his dad on your side. Just talk to this guy and see how he feels. You seem to have a healthy attitude about all of this and he will respect that. Maybe he will want to make the long distance thing work but even if he doesn’t, at least you’ll know you tried.