It’s the quintessential rom-com moment. What we hopeless romantics live and breathe for. Guy sees girl. Girl sees guy. A connection is obvious, palpable. What happens next?
Well, that’s up to you.
Evident or not, most of us have honed in on what we think is the perfect flirting style. But, what do guys think of it? That is who we are trying to impress, trying to catch—dare I say. Shouldn’t we be aware of the message we are giving off according to real college boys?
Wonder no more. Take the quiz below to discover your flirting style and what he really thinks of it.
1. You and your girls are out at a party when you spy the most gorgeous guy you’ve ever laid eyes on. You’re dying to get him to pay you some attention so you:
a. Keep stealing glances at him until he comes over to introduce himself.
b. Saunter right past him, running your hand down his back, and wink as you turn around and walk away.
c. Bet him he can’t get more phone numbers than you in five minutes. Whoever wins has to treat the other person to a drink.
2. At the bars, your go-to drink is a:
a. Rum and Coke—classic and simple, just like you.
b. Sex on the beach—the name says it all.
c. Beer—easy to carry around and promotes the no-fuss image you’re all about.
3. It’s the end of a fantastic first date and you want to show Mr. Right just how much you enjoyed his company. You:
a. Wait for him to lean in and then treat him to a series of sweet, little kisses before thanking him and walking inside.
b. Grab his neck and pull him in for a deep, sultry smooch and whisper in his ear asking when you’ll see him next.
c. Hop on and hold on tight as he gives you a piggy back up to your front door.
4. Your flirting style soul sister is:
a. Rory Gilmore from Gilmore Girls—she’s not one to make the first move but isn’t afraid to show her affection privately and simply.
b. Samantha Jones from Sex and the City—it takes courage and confidence to show a guy exactly how you are feeling.
c. Pam Beesly from The Office—there’s nothing better than planning a practical joke to get closer to a crush.
5. It’s 9 o’clock on a Friday night and you and your guy are enjoying a calm evening in front of the TV. Just the two of you are home and you’re in the mood for a little TLC. To cue him in you:
a. Cuddle up to his side and rest your hand on his knee.
b. Take the clicker, turn off the television and straddle his lap.
c. Ask him to join you in a one-on-one game of strip poker.
6. Your idea of the perfect date is:
a. A viewing of the new, guy-friendly romantic comedy where he can put his arm around you and coyly hold your hand in the theater.
b. A late evening at the club so you have an excuse to press your body against his as you dance the night
c. A day at the local amusement park filled with roller coasters, cotton candy, and plenty of laughs.
7. To really impress your guy the next time you hang out, you’ll wear:
a. A flirty, floral skirt with a bright shirt and fun wedge sandals.
b. A bandage dress that shows off the curves you’ve worked so hard for at the gym and your highest pair of heels.
c. Your comfiest, hip-hugging jeans and a loose t-shirt with the name of both of your favorite band emblazoned across the front.
Mostly A’s: The Shy Flirt
You are a girl who doesn’t like to make the first move. You’re one to steal coy glances at a guy across the room until he comes over and introduce himself. You’re never very forward in your actions but aren’t afraid to show how you feel privately.
Though many guys like the demure, mysterious appearance you give off, be wary of seeming aloof and closed off. He won’t try forever to crack your shell so don’t take forever to warm up. Surprise him with some completely out-of-character PDA every now and then to keep your relationship exciting and unpredictable.
What He Really Thinks:
“This is the type of girl that intrigues me. I am the type of person to walk over and start a conversation with this girl. I am curious about why she hasn't made a move yet, and this draws me in. This can be very sexy if done right.” –Anonymous, San Diego State University
“It's pretty inconvenient. Being familiar with one girl who is a shy flirt may make you think that a girl who just happens to glance at you a few times is into you, and then BAM! You strike out with this stranger.” –Peter, University of Iowa
“That'd be the most attractive because that's when you know she's not a floozy. This seems like a girl who I would most likely end up in a relationship with.” –Phil, Ohio University
“That is the best kind of girl in my opinion. I like the idea of an old-fashioned relationship and I think that starts with the guy making the first move. That being said, the girl should still show that she is interested.” –Shaun, University of Iowa
Mostly B’s: The Forward Flirt
You are the type of girl that will very obviously flirt with a guy anywhere, anytime, around anyone. You’re one to walk straight up to a guy and introduce yourself or give him a naughty compliment. You’ll never leave your guy wondering what is on your mind.
Being forward about your feelings is an admirable quality, but be sure you do so in an appropriate and timely matter. A quiet coffee shop is not the right place to loudly announce how sexy your guy’s butt looks in his new jeans. Show him a bit of your softer side and watch him melt.
What He Really Thinks:
“This girl is fun to party with and definitely knows how to have a good time. If she can pick and choose when it’s proper to act flirty and when to act like your girlfriend, then that is the perfect mix. The harm comes when some girls don't have an off switch when it comes to this and act upfront all the time.” –Anonymous, San Diego State University
“I like when this happens because it gets me talking to the girl and interested in getting to know her one-on-one.” –Peter, University of Iowa
“This seems like someone I wouldn't be calling the next day.” –Phil, Ohio University
“That kind of girl is generally just a fling for me. In my experiences, girls with that much courage tend to burn out quickly.” –Shaun, University of Iowa
Mostly C’s: The Playful Flirt
You are someone who can hang with the boys just as well as you can hang with your girls. You often rely on humor and lighthearted fun to connect with a guy. There is never a shortage of goofiness and laughter in your relationships.
While it is great to build relationships based not only on sexual attraction but friendship, too, make sure boys don’t begin to see you as one of them. Treat him to a peek at your girly side to show him that you definitely aren’t one of the guys.
What He Really Thinks:
“This is not my type of girl. If I want to hang out and watch the game, I want to do that with my buddies. I don't want to watch it with my girl, no matter how comfortable she is around my friends. I want my girl to act like a girl, not one of the guys.” –Anonymous, San Diego State University
“The best thing ever. For me, looking for a girlfriend isn't looking for a girlfriend. It's thinking, ‘Wow, not only do I like hanging out with this girl because we have tons of fun, but she also is hot as f**k!’ –Peter, University of Iowa
“Sounds like someone I want to hang out with, but I wouldn't really consider this flirting.” –Phil, Ohio University
“A great girl should be able to do this. I don't think watching football is mutually exclusive to also enjoying a night out.” –Shaun, University of Iowa
The Flirting Moves that Drive Him Wild...
No matter what your go-to style is it doesn’t hurt to switch things up. Read on to learn some of the flirting moves guys can’t resist and try one out on your next target when he least expects it.
“When a girl looks me dead in the eyes, smiles, grabs my hand and we walk away so she can whisper something in my ear so that only I can hear it.” –Anonymous, San Diego State University
“I like when a girl leads me somewhere by my hand, or when she whispers something to me close to my face. Too close to just be talking, cheek touching cheek, talking to me.” –Peter, University of Iowa
“A gentle smile, nothing too overt, but casual glances that become more frequent throughout the night that eventually lead up to the talk. Honestly, flirting seems like a game to me and I don't like games.” –Phil, Ohio University
“Saying hello. Asking me questions about what I'm doing. Putting up with me.” –Bryan, University of Southern California*
“My favorite is when she gives me those I want you eyes and then bites her lip a little. Seriously, what more can a guy ask for?” –Shaun, University of Iowa
Looking to delve deeper into the male psyche to find out his likes and dislikes? Whether you are shy, forward, or playful, there is no one more qualified to tell you about a guy’s opinion than a guy. Check out our Real Live College Guy column to see how real college guys answered your love life q’s here.
*Names and schools have been changed.
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