When guys talk about girls, what is commonly discussed is the “complex infrastructure of the female mind”. Just like we think guys are confusing, they think we are totally unable to be figured out. Sometimes guys think they have us figured out, but we are wired to throw them a monkey wrench and they have to start over again.
This Valentine’s Day, give the guys in your life the gift that keeps on giving. Create for them a basic guide to some of your behaviors (not all, leave a little mystery) and what to do.
I’ll give you an example:
Dear Boyfriend/Best Guy Friend/Any Guy Friend/Any Guy that Wants a Chance to Possibly Move Out of the Friend Zone Someday,
As you and I are both aware, my mind is a complex infrastructure. Let’s talk about my movie behaviors. Here is a list of movies that you should watch out for:
Movies to Watch For
● 500 Days of Summer
● Breakfast at Tiffany’s
● Pride and Prejudice ** (sometimes)
● The Notebook
● A Walk to Remember
If you catch me watching any of these movies, or suspect that I have been watching any of these movies, here is what you do.
Don’t run away or hide. Be patient. Come find me and wrap me up in your arms. If I need to cry, smooth my hair, kiss my head, and tell me I’m going to be okay. Offer your ears for listening to what may be bothering me. If I want to talk, listen. If I don’t yet, be patient. I’ll come to you when I’m ready.
For extra points, bring me a cup of coffee the way I like it, kiss me, and then pray with me.
Ladies, I do believe this is the gift that will keep on giving. Actually, don’t make them a book. When I pitched this idea to my boyfriend, he said that it was crap. So, don’t do it. Instead, just let them in on what you want and need.
I have come to learn, in my time and interactions with guys, that a good bit of the time, when we have a problem, they DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO TO HELP. Sometimes, they guess and they are lucky, but a lot of the time, they don’t know what they can do to help us. Guys aren’t like the guys in the movies (in case you didn’t know. That’s pretty relieving if you ask me. Guys in the movies are pretty boring).
So, instead of making them a book, I challenge you to let them know what you need. If you’re crying, and they ask you what’s wrong, don’t just say, “Nothing,” expecting them to understand what your “nothing” means. Instead, tell him what’s going on. Then tell him, if he asks, what he can do to help. Guys do like to be the big, strong hero, so let them. Let them be your hero!
If you need some ice cream, just say so. If you need them to snuggle up to you, just say so. If you need them to listen to you rant about that professor you can’t stand because you think they unfairly graded your last assignment, just say so. Chances are, they care enough about you to do whatever they have to do to make you feel better (a lot of it is because they know that if you feel good, they’ll feel better, and women in distress always tend to kiss their hero!).
Give them the Valentine’s Day gift they never knew they wanted, and let them in on some of your secrets!
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