If you’ve heard of The Chronicles of Narnia series, you’ve probably heard of Clive Staples Lewis. We know him better as C.S. Lewis. He wrote a lot about spirituality, and even his fictional works which were not directly related to spirituality, such as The Chronicles of Narnia, have deeper moral lessons for us to learn.
C.S. Lewis was great at using metaphors to get us to understand certain concept. In the second chapter of Mere Christianity, his metaphor includes a piano.
“Think…of a piano. It has not got two kinds of notes on it, the “right’ notes and the ‘wrong’ ones. Every single note is right at one time and wrong at another.”
This is one of those quotes you have to read a few times and let it break past your rib cage, through your lungs, and hit you right at your core: your heart.
So often, we want to call a failed relationship a mistake. We call friendships that end in us getting burned mistakes. We forget good times we had with other people, lessons that we learned about who we are and who people are, and things that we learned about the world. It’s all because we experience pain.
C.S. Lewis challenges us in this quote. When you first met your ex, or that old friend, you most likely had no idea that your relationship would end the way it did. You came to know them without thinking so much about how it would end. The relationship or the friendship was right for that time…
But, perhaps, it isn’t right for now.
There’s something else you need right now, so don’t think so much about what happened then. Think of the loss as an opportunity. Be open to finding someone who is right for you in a friendship or relationship now, who can be supportive to you in this stage of your life.
Forgive yourself, forgive the other person for the pain that was felt, and move forward into a new time in your life. Open your mind for the new opportunities that life has to offer!