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Dealing with any kind of low-point in your life takes a toll on everything and everyone around you.


A couple months ago I was definitely at my lowest. I kept a smile on my face, but I was secretly just trying to figure out how to get back to myself.

During this time, I learned a lot about myself that has stuck with me and will continue to shape me into the best me.



We all know that annoying girl who goes through a break up with her boyfriend every month and makes it more and more dramatic each time. She portrays it as being the end of the world knowing they would be back together the next day. For me, it was actually the end of a part of my world and I knew that it would not be back the next day.

Coming to this realization literally tore me apart and brought me to this humble state where I had to decide what I was going to do. I made the #1 mistake of putting 100% of my happiness into one person; therefore, when that person was gone… so was I. For two years I never thought that I would have to go through the process of regaining my happiness, but it was happening. “Sink or float” was going to be my motto until I had gotten it back.

I learned that getting over a break up does not take a week, 2 weeks, or a month. Going from talking to someone daily to not at all is not something easy to deal with. Rebuilding your social life and realizing the people you’ve unconsciously pushed away is even harder.

BUT… There is hope!

The good thing about hitting rock bottom is that you start to learn things about yourself that you didn’t know before. You are gradually introduced to people and opportunities that you may have not noticed before because you were blinded.

You now have the freedom to take whichever path to TRUE happiness and nobody is in your way to distract you. This comes along with mistakes and trial and error, but with more mistakes comes more lessons. With more lessons comes more knowledge about yourself that will help you connect with the right person for you.

I have been fortunate to go through this beautiful process of finding myself and learning to love myself, which came along with re-meeting someone who saw the beauty in me that I couldn’t see before.



Collegiettes, don’t be afraid to hit rock bottom because most likely it’ll be where you find the jewels of life lessons that will shape you into a better you!

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