We live in a world today that is so unbelievable focused on the outer appearance. Of course, this isn’t news to anyone, but it would be nice to shift that societal norm to something that mattered way more—inner beauty.
One of my favorite examples of this societal norm in action is the way we compliment one another. The default comments always focus on how a person looks. It doesn’t matter if it’s a guy hitting on a girl in a bar or a grandma talking about her grandchild. It’s always starts with something along the lines of “she’s so pretty,” or cute, or adorable, or WHATEVER else that in retrospect doesn’t even matter.
Here’s a list of 26 things I’d rather be called than “pretty.”
1. Intriguing
It’s more than just being interesting. I’m a character of depth. There’s more to me than meets the eye.
2. Brilliant
In addition to simple intelligence, my thoughts cultivate creativity and encourage critical thinking.
3. Generous
Do I give my time, energy, or love? Generosity goes beyond giving money.
4. Brave
Bravery isn’t the absence of fear. Bravery is being able to face my fears even when it would be easier just to run and hide.
5. Honest
Am I someone who tells the truth even when it’s hard?
6. Authentic
I’m the same person in public as I am behind closed doors.
7. Confident
This is my favorite compliment. I don’t need the approval of another human being to find satisfaction. I’m not afraid to be myself. Whether it’s speaking my mind or wearing an edgy outfit, I don’t worry about how others will view me.
8. Lively
Do I give life to a crowd or suck away the energy?
9. Humble
Even in my successes, I keep a level head. I don’t allow my ego to swell to capacity.
10. Kind
Am I filled with compassion for others?
11. Supportive
In the big and small things, and even when I don’t agree, I’ll be there to cheer you on.
12. Driven
I’m determined for success and will work hard to reach my goals.
13. Encouraging
Do I lift your spirit with simple words?
14. Patient
Even in the most trying times, I can keep my cool.
15. Captivating
Do I steal your attention in a matter of seconds?
16. Capable
I am good enough to do anything I set my mind to.
17. Considerate
I think of others often and put their needs before my wants.
18. Eloquent
René Char, a 20th-century French poet, once said, “I believe in the magic and authority of words,” and so do I. Speech is a gift. Are my words potent and articulate, or do I squander this gift with weak, indifferent babble?
19. Loyal
My allegiance is never called into question when times get difficult.
20. Imaginative
I can think outside of the box and bring new ideas to the table.
21. Inclusive
Do I welcome newcomers or do I keep to my circle?
22. Tolerant
I accept and love those who are different from me. I don’t judge diversity.
23. Forgiving
Do I show love and understanding to everyone? Even those who have hurt me?
24. Insightful
I understand concepts fully and deeply. My quest for comprehension doesn’t stop at the surface.
25. Ethical
I am woven with a strong moral fiber and cannot act without a conscience. I strive to make my life a symphony of high ideals.
26. Respected
Do I present myself in a way that others might look up to? Do I set a good example for those who may follow in my footsteps?
This list could go on forever. Pretty is only skin deep, while true beauty goes beyond the surface.
You are more than pretty, Collegiettes!