We live in a world today that is so unbelievable focused on the outer appearance. Of course, this isn’t news to anyone, but it would be nice to shift that societal norm to something that mattered way more—inner beauty.
One of my favorite examples of this societal norm in action is the way we compliment one another. The default comments always focus on how a person looks. It doesn’t matter if it’s a guy hitting on a girl in a bar or a grandma talking about her grandchild. It’s always starts with something along the lines of “she’s so pretty,” or cute, or adorable, or WHATEVER else that in retrospect doesn’t even matter.
Here’s a list of 26 things I’d rather be called than “pretty.”
It’s more than just being interesting. I’m a character of depth. There’s more to me than meets the eye.
In addition to simple intelligence, my thoughts cultivate creativity and encourage critical thinking.
Do I give my time, energy, or love? Generosity goes beyond giving money.
Bravery isn’t the absence of fear. Bravery is being able to face my fears even when it would be easier just to run and hide.
Am I someone who tells the truth even when it’s hard?
I’m the same person in public as I am behind closed doors.
This is my favorite compliment. I don’t need the approval of another human being to find satisfaction. I’m not afraid to be myself. Whether it’s speaking my mind or wearing an edgy outfit, I don’t worry about how others will view me.
Do I give life to a crowd or suck away the energy?
Even in my successes, I keep a level head. I don’t allow my ego to swell to capacity.
Am I filled with compassion for others?
In the big and small things, and even when I don’t agree, I’ll be there to cheer you on.
I’m determined for success and will work hard to reach my goals.
Do I lift your spirit with simple words?
Even in the most trying times, I can keep my cool.
Do I steal your attention in a matter of seconds?
I am good enough to do anything I set my mind to.
I think of others often and put their needs before my wants.
René Char, a 20th-century French poet, once said, “I believe in the magic and authority of words,” and so do I. Speech is a gift. Are my words potent and articulate, or do I squander this gift with weak, indifferent babble?
My allegiance is never called into question when times get difficult.
I can think outside of the box and bring new ideas to the table.
Do I welcome newcomers or do I keep to my circle?
I accept and love those who are different from me. I don’t judge diversity.
Do I show love and understanding to everyone? Even those who have hurt me?
I understand concepts fully and deeply. My quest for comprehension doesn’t stop at the surface.
I am woven with a strong moral fiber and cannot act without a conscience. I strive to make my life a symphony of high ideals.
Do I present myself in a way that others might look up to? Do I set a good example for those who may follow in my footsteps?
This list could go on forever. Pretty is only skin deep, while true beauty goes beyond the surface.
You are more than pretty, Collegiettes!