I have a love-hate relationship with my boyfriend’s pastime. He’s what you would call an avid gamer. I, too, enjoy a good game every now and then but sometimes I don’t understand the appeal of rage-inducing games. Why play something that makes you so upset? I question this but, then again, I find myself yelling at a screen when my Pokémon dies in battle. Whether you’re a gamer yourself or are interested in someone who games, I’m here to talk to you about the reality of dating a gamer.
My boyfriend plays a range of different games in different genres. From For Honour (an online fighting game? I think?) to some new fishing game he found on Steam, most games appeal to him. His adaptability is a wonderful trait because he, knowing that he enjoys most games, lets me force him to play the games I enjoy without being worried that he’ll get bored. Recently, we’ve been playing one of my favourite games, and my first recommendation in this article is Sun Haven. It’s basically the equivalent of Stardew Valley, a pixelated farming simulator with fantastical elements it like elves, magic and dragons. It’s an easy game to relax to, all it really consists of is farming, mining and completing simple tasks for your neighbours. We’ve loved playing it together. We can work toward the same goals without having to do the same tasks and it lets me live out my dream of living on a farm with a bunch of barn animals.
Another great aspect of dating a gamer is that your partner will almost always have time for you. While my boyfriend spends much of his time playing games, that’s also the time he spends with his friends. It’s honestly pretty entertaining hearing him laugh with his friends; I can’t help but laugh along with them. In turn, when he isn’t playing, he’s usually spending that time with me. Even if we’re just playing more games, we’re playing together and that’s the type of quality time I need. He always takes that into consideration. Another great game that we spend too much time on is the ever-popular Minecraft. I doubt there is a single person reading this who hasn’t at least heard of Minecraft. It’s a first-person block-style game that honestly has limitless possibilities. You can craft and build almost anything you can think of. During the pandemic, this was the game I would play to socialize with my friends through quarantine. Now, my boyfriend and I play it when we want to let our creativity flow.
The last thing that I think is a quality that most gamers share, though this may just be a quality of my partner, is their energy. I’m sure most of you have heard the “black cat, golden retriever” trope on TikTok, and that’s exactly what we are. Gamers, a lot of the time, have a very contagious, positive and fun vibe about them. They resemble the energetic, happy golden retriever. They know when a break is needed and try not to stress over the little things. While I sit on his bed getting schoolwork done, he always manages to keep me uplifted, whether he’s playing a game or not. And when we do take a break, one of the games we like to play together to get out of our heads is Keywe. It’s a couch co-op game where both of you play as kiwis (the animals) who are working in a post office, trying to get the mail out on time. It has a number of mini-games and gets very intense in the best way possible. We play this game together the most when I’m away for school and we just need a fun, virtual date.
The list honestly goes on and on about why I love dating a gamer. They sometimes get a bad rep in the dating world, but I can promise there are far more pros than cons. I love my gamer boyfriend and, as much as I sometimes get annoyed of his playing, I would never change it. The last game I’ll leave you with is It Takes Two, which is by far my favourite story-based, multiplayer game. It follows two parents on the edge of a separation when, all of a sudden, their daughter makes a wish to a magical cupid-like book that transforms the two into a ragdoll and a clay figure. They go on different adventures, working together to get back to their normal life. The gameplay is incredibly fun and the storyline is honestly a bit absurd. Definitely the first game I recommend for any couples, siblings or friends. I hope this has provided you with some fun new date ideas to plan with your partner.
Much love, Evelyn<3