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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Western chapter.

You want to want to have sex. You really do. But something feels like it’s just… keeping you from getting turned on. Birth controls, stress levels, hormones, and a bunch of other factors can come between you and your boo when it comes to your sexy times! Here are some all-natural methods to increase your sex drive so you can get back to the bedroom:

1. Watch Your Diet

What you put into your body MATTERS. Some foods are known to be natural “aphrodisiacs.” This means that they contain the vitamins and minerals that your body needs to get the blood flowing in all the right places. Try adding a few figs, bananas and avocados to your daily diet so your body is ready when you want it to be.

Another favourite libido-boosting food from the Her Campus Western team is chocolate. Chocolate triggers the same hormones that are released during sex—so when people say that good chocolate can be like sex, they aren’t kidding!

2. Try Essential Oils

Just like foods, there are certain essential oils that are considered aphrodisiacs (and who doesn’t love the thought of getting all oiled up before sexy times?) These oils can help increase blood flow and create a state of emotional arousal. Warming oils like cinnamon get your blood pumping, while certain florals can help bring you into your desired mental state. The queens of these oils are rose, ylang ylang, and jasmine. Here’s a great diffuser blend to put on to really get things started:

          Picture taken from Doterra’s social media assist diffuser blends

3. Set the Mood!

For women in particular, the context and setting you’re having sex in is very important. Take some time to clean up a little, put on some sexy tunes, and cuddle with your partner before having sex. Physical closeness to someone, like cuddling or hugging, can give your body a rush of oxytocin, a hormone closely related to sexual arousal and motivation.

Setting the mood doesn’t have to be just in the moment. Try sexting it up through the day or sifting through a few naughty photos of your partner to get some sexual tension going. When you see each other later you’ll barely be able to make it to the bedroom.

4. Relax

Sex is all about emotions. So when you’re feeling really stressed out from school, work, or just life in general, it can really impact your sex life. Jumping from an intense study sesh into a love-making sesh just isn’t always possible! Try taking a warm bath with your partner, giving each other massages, and just really focus on each other to get those hormones going.

It’s also a good idea to plan your date nights according to your schedule. Instead of trying to fit it in the night before your exam, plan a night where there’s no distractions from the main event.

5. Consider Switching Birth Controls

While it’s still a topic of debate, many women find that “the pill” seriously reduces their sex drive. Talk to your doctor about other brands or methods of contraception available so you can have your fun while being safe.

So go pour yourself a nice bath for you and your partner with some rose oil and chocolates, and have a fantastic night.

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