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How to Stop Being a Passenger in Your Own Life

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Virginia Tech chapter.

Do you ever feel like life is passing you by? That you’re just sitting on the sidelines waiting for life to happen while other people live their lives to the fullest? No matter what you do, you feel as if you’re not in control, that someone else is in the “driver’s seat” maneuvering you through all of life’s most difficult situations. Life is full of adventure that is scary but also exciting; in order to fully enjoy life, you have to conquer your fears in order to find your way back to the “driver’s seat.”

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With trying to balance everything from schoolwork, friends, and family in your day-to-day life, it can become difficult to try and maintain a sense of normalcy. If you ever feel yourself distancing from those closest to you and notice that you are becoming less involved in every day decisions, that’s okay. It’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed by the pressures placed upon you, sometimes needing a break from “driving” and handing over the wheel to someone else. But taking a step back from the “driver’s seat” can lead to problems affecting yourself and your relationships.

Sitting in the “passenger seat” of your own life for too long is a very dangerous game. Letting someone have control over every little aspect of your life gives the person in control too much power, creating strains on the foundations of your relationship with them. If you let someone have power over you for too long, you begin to lose the most important thing in your life: your self-identity. So in order to get out of the “passenger seat” and back into the “driver’s seat” of your life, you need to recognize that you are no longer in control and make time for things that make you happy. 

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Being able to recognize that you are no longer in control is the most crucial step to getting back into the “driver’s seat.” Once this is accomplished, finding stress-relieving activities such as working out, listening to music, or going out with friends will help prevent you from falling back into the “passenger seat” again. Life is full of adventure. At times, it is going to be scary and seem out of control, but knowing what in life makes you happy will help keep you centered. It’s a wild ride out there and it goes by too fast to sit back in the passenger seat and watch it pass you by; so by all means, get out there and drive.

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Alexandra Brooks

Virginia Tech '22

Alexandra is a senior at Virginia Tech studying Cognitive and Behavioral Neuroscience with a minor in Political Science. A 5'2-ish Canadian-American who will stop whatever she is doing to go pet a dog, Alexandra chooses to live everyday by the motto, "Just be yourself." When not stressing out over her major or writing for Her Campus, Alexandra can be found working out, reading, listening to music, and hanging out with her friends and family.