Okay people! This reality check is for both me and you, so hear me out and read a short piece of literature on what to expect being a single college student. I would say I’m newly single myself and still learning the ropes to the meaning of the current data, and this is harder than any school assignment I’ve done. To say the least, this experience has been interesting and unique, but here’s what you can look forward to if you’re newly single and in college.
1. The Pressure to Have Sex
Once you get going in the single life, you’ll find yourself being noticed by a wide variety of people interested in only one thing…SEX! This can be so frustrating at times because having casual sex is usually with either one of two people: the person you really want to have sex with who ignores you or the person you don’t want to have sex with who is constantly hitting you up. Neither situation is healthy. So, it’s best to try to not get attached when having casual sex because it will just complicate things even more.
2. Lusting over TV love
For those of you who spend the majority of your minutes single watching TV shows or movies full of romance, you’ll find yourself feeling the need for love again. This moment in time can bring up old feelings, but once reality hits again, you may come to the conclusion that you’re either missing your old thing or that a relationship is not for you. It can be hard watching romantic moments on TV; but that’s thing, it’s on TV, and no TV show really depicts what love is in reality.
3. Some Friends Never End
Cliché title, I know, but in the time of being single, there’s nothing like having good friends to check on you during this time. They may be aware of how it is for you as you transfer to the single life, and as the days go by, you’ll fall in love with your friends all over again. The endless amount of time you’ll spend with your friends can bring healing to your life. Friends should be celebrated whether you’re single or not, but the support and love you receive from friends while single hits a little different.
4. Losing/Finding Yourself
In some cases, people lose themselves in a relationship. Once the relationship is over, there’s a loss of one’s self, but the good news is that what is lost can be found. There’s hope for us to find ourselves and eventually find someone that loves us. It’s a hard time in life, but the liberation of finding yourself and being yourself is so rewarding.
The single life can be challenging yet rewarding. This time can allow you to evolve into a brand new person, and it can be an exciting time. It’s important to not get caught up in any toxic situations. Oh and endless meditation can bring peace during the whole process! Being single means no worries and focusing on yourself. Don’t let anyone who’s not worth it take that time away from you!