Cuffing Season ( & How to Not Fall Victim)

Love and HipHop

Alright ladies, fall is upon us. It is getting cooler and things are beginning to slow down. The world is getting more beautiful and the trees are giving our world all the tints of oranges, reds, and greens we can imagine! Which can only mean one thing……

Cuffing season is upon us. There have been TONS of articles, videos, tv shows and movies all centered around this millennial phenomenon.

 According to Urban Dictionary, the definition of cuffing season is: “during the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be "cuffed" or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.” So, I’m here to shed a bit of light on the do’s & don’ts for this fall.

DO mingle! Fall is an amazing time for dates. From pumpkin patches to haunted houses; the opportunities are endless! This is your chance, sis!

DO NOT use your loneliness as a justification to reach out to previously destructive relationships. This includes romantic, platonic and family relationships! Those feelings will pass and you will regret allowing poison back into your life.

DO NOT be silly! Wrap that willy! All that mingling might end up leading you to the bedroom, but continue to use protection. Safe sex is great sex!

DO keep your eye out for red flags. If your new love lad(y) is showing signs of abusive behavior, low and destructive self-esteem, shady comments and actions when it comes to talking about monogamy, then take heed! Yes, give them a chance, but cuffing season isn’t supposed to stress you.

DO NOT abandon your hobbies, friends and school work for your “cuffing season” boo. Yes, this could be everlasting, but what’s the joy in having something great if you can’t share it with the people and things you love? Keep your gal pals around, stay on that GPA, and keep yourself busy with your hobbies for when he/she doesn't text back…because there will come a day, honey. Believe me.

Now that all that is over, we can all proceed with our pumpkin-latte whatevers, midterms, new boo-thangs and much more. ‘Tis the season, ladies. “Tis the season! 

-HCXO!