By Evan Kaplow-Healy
TW: discusses eating disorders and comments relating to eating, weight, appearance, exercise, etc.
Thanksgiving is personally one of my favorite holidays – not because of the history or story of Thanksgiving (god, no) but because of the food and the company. My family loves to turn the music all the way up and dance party through the holiday. As much as I love and adore Thanksgiving, the holiday season can be an extremely challenging time for individuals who are suffering with all things relating to food and body image. Here are some ground rules that may be worth suggesting to the individuals you are spending your holidays with!
· Body Talk
We all know the comments that are made after not seeing family for a while (especially when you’re a college student). “Evan, you look so skinny! Good for you!” or on the opposite end of the spectrum: “Evan it looks like you’ve gained some weight, are you alright?” A good rule of thumb to follow is to eliminate all body talk from the holiday festivities to make sure everyone is comfortable and is having a good time.
· Portions
Thanksgiving is THE food holiday, no question. Enjoy all the delicious foods made by your family and friends, and make as many trips to fill up your plate as you want! I know there are a lot of family members that feel the need to speak up when someone makes another trip to the buffet table, but this is your friendly reminder that it’s none of their business :)
· Post-Holiday Season Diets
The holiday season never comes without a little guilt from fitness commercials that always mention the post-holiday diet. If these conversations get out of hand, remind yourself and those around you how important it is to exercise for mental health and strength, not necessarily weight loss.
Don’t be afraid to change the topic or call someone out (nicely, at least the first time) if you hear something that might make someone upset or uncomfortable. I am sending my love to every individual out there who is struggling as Thanksgiving approaches. I hope these points help you help your loved ones. If you find yourself in need of help, here is a list of resources available:
NEDA Helplines – Text, Call, or Online Chat
UVM Resources – On and Off Campus Resources
ANAD Homepage – Additional Resources
Xx Evan
*Edited by Paisley