Friends. They’re the fundamental piece of your social life and sometimes your sanity. We all have different types of friends. Whether you have a class with them, they’re one of your coworkers, they’re a family friend or someone you just have a lot in common with: You can make one anywhere.
Then, there are best friends. The ones that you cannot live without. They’ve been through everything with you – the heartbreaks, fights, even when you two are deciding where to go for Sunday brunch. However, sometimes these types of friendships cause most girls to be dependent on each other; not wanting to be alone or go anywhere unless they’re with their BFF or at least someone to keep them company. This usually causes the bond to fall apart because you don’t receive the space you need, and it can be very hard to build the pieces of the friendship back together. But one other rare equation is two independent girls coming together and sharing their lives with each other while giving space to one another for however long they need or want. That’s the secret answer to having a best friend for life.
I can say that I am one of the most independent people I’ve ever encountered in my life. I grew up not having a knit of close friends because I moved around a lot and not a lot of people were very fond of my personality. I remember having a hard time making friends back in grade school because I didn’t fit in; I always gave off an “independent” vibe. Now, even in university, I’m not with my friends a lot because most of the activities that I participate in my life requires “me” time. It’s not because I’m busy with school or work, it’s just the hobbies I take part in usually don’t involve other people.
My best friend, on the other hand, is also super independent. She’s traveled half of the world all by herself, so that counts, right? Besides from that, she had the opportunity to grow up in different parts of the globe while she was raised, learning that being independent will get her far in life. She’s definitely bound to that lifestyle – every time I see her, she’s never with anybody. She’s always alone, and she’s perfectly okay with that.
Adding the two of us up, we are made for each other. We don’t cling onto each other 24/7, we don’t have to stay in one spot together (if we’re at a party or event of some sorts, we’re not asking each other to go to the bathroom together). What matters is, even if we’re miles apart, we still give each other the love and support we need to succeed in our lives.
What was the point of this story if you may ask? I’m talking about two independent girls coming together for nine years (so far) with hardly any fights or brutal arguments, they are the closest they can be. These types of friendships are the best because while you’re out there doing what you’re doing in your lives, your independent companion will be out there cheering you on, even when you’re not physically together. It also teaches you the values of trust, friendship, and just helping you realize what you want out of life.