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Dating Advice for the Girl Who Doesn’t Date

Let’s face it, dating sucks. Especially for the girl who rarely finds the motivation to go on a date. If you’re anything like me, you probably prefer to spend your time hanging out with friends or staying in and reading a book by yourself rather than going out on a date. Actually working up the energy to go on said date? It’s near-impossible. Not to mention how terrifying it can be to put yourself out there and get to know a person. Nonetheless, dating is still a great way to get out of your comfort zone and discover what your likes and dislikes are. Here’s some advice for those of you girls who aren’t the dating experts.

Say Yes!

I know. You’re probably making up excuses on why you shouldn’t go on the date with the cute boy who asked you out in your math class. You’re thinking “Oh I have too much homework” or “I’m too busy with work and school to even think about going on a date right now.” While you may have a lot on your plate, don’t use that as an excuse not to get to know someone.

Don’t Overthink It

It’s just a date. Don’t overthink it and make it a bigger deal than it actually is. Yeah, you’re most likely going to want to call and cancel 15 minutes before he picks you up because you’re so nervous, but DON’T. Going into the date with an open mind and a positive outlook will make the date 100% times better for the both of you. Honestly, he’s probably just as anxious as you are.

Be Confident

 Going into a date confident in yourself and who you are is key. Confidence is attractive, and your date is definitely going to notice the way you carry yourself.  And if you aren't feeling so confident? Fake it till you make it! No one ever has to know that your hair would just not cooperate, or that your eyeliner is ever-so-slightly uneven. 

We all have those friends who go out on dates all the time, and we envy them for their ability to do so without needing to take a 24 hour nap after. While dating can be very scary and uncomfortable, it’s a great way to get outside of your comfort zone and meet new people who you could potentially fall in love with. So take a chance. I’m not saying you have to become a dating guru, but every once in a while make an effort to go out with someone. You won’t regret it.

Kaylee Ann Mortensen is a student at the University of Utah studying International Studies and English. In her free time she can be found reading, trying to master the language of french, looking up pictures of grizzly bears, and eating french fries.  
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