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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UPR chapter.

Dear lover,

 

When our relationship started a while back, everything was special and magical. Everything had color again and it just so happened that you were the reason color came back to my life. But then came our first fight and everything suddenly felt too human again. It’s our first fight and there are a few things I think you should know.

Firstly, I love you to pieces. I love you enough to confront you about the bad things you do and I love you enough to apologize for my mistakes. We’re fighting right now because life is so amazing it makes everyone different so we can have diversity. Something you did upset me. Maybe I did something to upset you. Maybe we both got out of line and said things or did things we shouldn’t have, but I still love you. I promised to love you when you asked me to be yours and I keep my promises. I am mad, but I won’t stop loving you just because I’m upset and I know you won’t, either.

I also want you to know that I’m sorry. I’m sorry for the things I’m saying while I’m mad because I’m not thinking straight. I might ask you to talk later because I know I will say things that aren’t true. If I do, give me space to remember the things that make me want to stay, because I don’t plan on leaving, but my anger can make you think otherwise.

If I stop talking without saying anything, I’m hurt. You know someone is truly hurt when they give you their silence. In this case, please try to make it better because I promise that whenever I do it to you, I’ll be the first to give up my pride and apologize.

I don’t look to hurt you. I just lose my temper sometimes, and I’m sorry.

I’m not leaving anytime soon. Don’t forget that I promised to be there for you and if we’re together it means I’m with you through thick or thin.

Lastly, remember this very important thing. This is not our last fight and I don’t want it to be. I want us to have many more fights. I want us to drive each other crazy for a long time because I want us to last and we have to know that all relationships have their ups and downs, but that’s balance. And that’s what love is about. Love is staying together during the good and the bad moments we go through.

I want us to have enough fights to fill a lifetime so that in every fight, we have a chance to remember we have the same amount of good moments to remember. Every fight is only a chance to remind each other that we are in love and one fight won’t change that. This is our first fight and it won’t be our last. But that is exactly how I want it.