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Breaking Up with Someone Smoothly

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UPR chapter.

We’ve all been there. We see our relationship fall apart, and we know we got to let go, but we don’t know how to do it. And it’s funny to come to this point of our lives, because I can be certain that most of us rather prefer that they break up with you, than rather do it yourself. But you know that will not happen, and whatever the reason is you want to break up… please do it wisely. Without further ado, I present you the list on how to break it off with somebody:

  • When you break up, please do it in person: There is nothing that makes things worse than cowering up and do it online, phone or text. That is just low. Act like the classy person you are, and do this to the face. It actually helps with the whole closure process.
  • Don’t choose important dates to do this: Don’t be an a**, don’t ruin special occasions for your future ex, do it on a day that has no meaning. You do NOT want to make things worse.
  • If you want to break up, expect there will be lot of talking: Don’t just leave the person, I think the other person deserves to know. It would be just plain mean if you just ran off like you don’t care about their feelings.
  •  Don’t be a tattle tale: If you are going to do this, don’t tell anyone about it. Keep things to yourself. There is a little thing called privacy.
  •  Don’t “whore out” your newly single status on facebook/hide the single status from your newsfeed: Really? Why would you possibly do that? You just got out of a relationship. I don’t think it would be nice if everyone commented on the newly changed relationship status. Not cool, seriously.
  •  Give the person space: Believe me, I know about this. You don’t simply break up with someone and start calling hours just after the break up. Don’t you understand the other person is still coping with the fact that you two are not together anymore? Please give him/her some time off of you, that person needs it.

 

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Nahir Robles was a former member of the Her Campus at UPR chapter from 2013 until 2018. She graduated with a Bachelor's in Integrative Biology. Some of her interests include writing, modeling, and wrestling. She is currently a Her Campus Mentor and works as a Pathology Assistant.
Suzzette Martinez Malavet is a senior at the University of Puerto Rico-Rio Piedras studying Information and Journalism. She loves photography, shoes, fashion, social media, traveling and exercising outdoors. She has interned at the Capitol of Puerto Rico, Diálogo Digital, Wapa TV, Telemundo Network, U.S. Census Bureau's Center for New Media and Promotions and the Corporate Communication/Sales & Marketing Department of the U.S. Mint in DC, but her proudest accomplishment was in Spring 2013 when she founded the very first HC Chapter in Puerto Rico, Her Campus UPR. Suzzette is currently the Chapter Advisor of Her Campus American University, Marymount, William & Mary, and GW. She is also a returning intern this semester at the U.S. Census Bureau's Center for New Media and Promotions. This 22-year-old woman is the most career-driven individual you will ever meet. If you want to know a little more about her...if you want to know what makes her tick and what inspires her the most...Unlock the mystery by reading some of her awesome articles!