Hooking up can be really fun, but only if your partner cares about your feelings and needs. Respect in sexual relationships is extremely important not only for your psychological well-being, but for your physical health as well. You should always feel comfortable and appreciated by your sexual partner. Read on to find out how to fix three common disrespectful hook-up behaviors.
1. The ‘Head Push’
Ladies, you know what I am talking about. This is when you are casually hooking up with a guy, and all of the sudden you feel your head being pushed southward. This is the guy sign language for “go down on me.” Not only is this annoying, but it is also extremely rude. This guy believes that just because he is hooking up with you, he is entitled to a free blow job. A real man does not demand fellatio in such a degrading manner, and knows that if he is lucky enough to receive such a gift, it will be when you decide to offer it to him. If a guy pulls this trick on you,let him know it is not okay. Try pushing his head down next time and see how he likes it.
2. Not Reciprocating
This is when a guy expects you to give him the full service, but then refuses to return the favor. When he refuses to reciprocate, he sends the message that he only cares about his own sexual pleasure. He probably believes that the female orgasm is only a myth created by feminists, and he may have never gone down on a girl in his life. Some especially interesting excuses ladies have reported hearing include, “I wouldn’t be good at it,” “Sorry, I’m a germaphobe,” and the worst: “Going down on a girl would be disrespectful to my manhood.” A good guy cares about the girl’s pleasure just as much as his own, so don’t put up with the ones who don’t.
This kind of behavior is very frustrating, but easy to fix. If you hook up with a boy like this, simply refuse to do anything for him until he has satisfied you. Hopefully, he will eagerly cater to your needs. Worst case scenario would be that neither of you receive any oral action, but at least the experience is equal (which is what those feminists fought for all those years, anyway).
3. Refusing to Wear a Condom
This is another extremely selfish behavior that should never be tolerated. Many guys insist on having sex without condoms because “it feels better.” Maybe it does, but it won’t feel better a few months down the road when you have to deal with a painful STD or delivering a baby. Condoms are extremely important because they effectively prevent transmission of sexually transmitted diseases and infections, such as Herpes, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and HIV. Condoms should be used even if the sexual relationship is monogamous because you may not know the sexual history of your partner, some STD’s don’t display any symptoms, and, unfortunately, cheating does happen. Also, they are very helpful for preventing pregnancy. [click here to view the Center for Disease Control Fact Sheet about Condom Use]
Any guy privileged enough to hook up with you should respect your request for him to wear a condom. If he argues with you, calmly get out of bed, put your clothes back on, and walk out the door. Guys prefer condom sex to no sex at all, so he will be ripping open that Trojan wrapper before you even get your bra hooked.
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3. Condoms: Steady Health.com http://www.steadyhealth.com/articles/Pros_and_Cons_of_Female_and_Male_Condoms_a1185.html