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Finding love in all the wrong places. Dating is hard, liking someone is even harder. I did the one thing I told myself I would never do, even if it was the last resort. I signed up for a few dating apps.
Regular dating aside, dating apps were possibly the worst idea I have ever made this year. The feeling is good when you notice how many guys swiped to like you but it also is not a good feeling when nothing actually happens. I would not say this was a fail but I am also saying it was not a success.
I learned a few things about myself throughout this entire “experiment” per se. I will not be the one to find love on them. I have this pre-deceived notion on love, which might make me sound pretentious and what not, that does not involve swiping right based on looks or a funny bio.
Chasing love does not speed up love by any means. Walking cliche over here but love happens when it should. It should not be sped up because one feels lonely. Dating apps fill that tiny void only a little while until it becomes another app untouched in the very last page on the phone.
Dating apps can make you feel like a million bucks or a tiny invisible fish in a big sea full of people prettier than you. Endorphins rise and heart beats flutter when a match has been made. Hearts sink down as well when the conversation halts or starts with a vulgar message at two in the morning wanting nothing more than a little action.
Finally, I am picky and I blame reading, watching and listening to too many love stories for this one. I am a relationship girl who has always gravitated towards the “nice guys” who care more about the feelings and less about that action. The hometown McDreamy’s who plays baseball that Mom always coos about when he gets mentioned. Something about these apps I could never find that connection with because I was looking for a specific guy by basing off a feeling from my past.
Whatever it might be dating apps are personally not for me. I tried to fill a void that cannot be filled by swiping right or left. I just was looking for love in all the wrong places.