Whether childhood chums or quickly bonded college buddies, best friends are some of the most important parts of our lives. But should we live with them?
The temptation to move in with a person you already share so much with can be very strong, but it is not something that should be entered into lightly. Countless friendships have been severely altered following the decision to move in together, both for the good and the bad. So what determines the outcome?
There are two main factors to consider when trying to evaluate the possible success or failure of a roommateship: personality and habits.
Who you are in your home is often very different than who you are when the rest of the world is watching. In the comfort of your own home, the real you appears. Close friends have usually already seen and accepted this side of you, and it is probably one of the main reasons they love you! As long as a completely new person doesn’t emerge from your personality post-move in, the personality factor shouldn’t have a huge effect on the relationship.
Instead, it is the unknown habits people have that pose the largest threat. She’s a smoker, you’re not. She is a night owl, you prefer daytime. She’s a neat freak, you’re a slob. When it comes to finding a best friend, these factors probably don’t weigh heavily on your choice. But when searching for a roommate, it’s these little things that can make or break the deal.
The best advice if you are debating over whether or not to move in with your best bud is to think it through before diving in. Be prepared for the possibility that it may not work out and your friendship could suffer. Discuss important matters usch as guests, noice, chores and money beforehand. Finally, be open to change and forgiving of minor faults.
After all, nobody is a perfect roommate (including you!)