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4 Ways To Find “4 Lifers” In A Sea Of 40,000+ People

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UCLA chapter.

Making friends at a large school can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be. Creating shared experiences is VITAL for a solid friendship. Here are four different ways you can find your ‘for-lifers’!

#1: Discussion Sections

Be brave! According to Professor Jeffrey Hall, it takes around 50 hours for someone to go from an acquaintance to a friend, so you might as well take advantage of that time in your discussion sections. Within the first week, decide where you want to sit for the rest of the quarter. By sitting in the same area every class, you can easily make conversation with the people around you. Talk to that person with the cute glasses or carefully selected stationary next to you. Inside jokes about your class, working on discussion worksheets and pulling all-nighters at The Study make some lifelong memories. However, make sure to have some fun outside of class too! Going to a trendy new cafe, watching a comedy show or hiking can all take your discussion acquaintance to a brand new bestie. You never know if they could make the perfect long-term study buddy or future bridesmaid. 

#2: Floormates 

Anna Schultz-Girls Laughing In Holiday Pajamas
Anna Schultz / Her Campus

Don’t forget about your floormates! You might be focused on your friendship with your roommates but remember the people next door! You miss out on 100% of the conversations you don’t make, so take every opportunity to make conversation. 

Ask that girl about that TikTok viral skincare product she’s using in the communal bathroom, compliment that custom crochet tote in the elevator and bond over attending the same Eras Tour show (and having the honor of owning the legendary blue crewneck) in the lounge. You never know if you might connect over growing up in the same area or having the same favorite song!

Also, participate in the RA floor activities. Singing and screaming to “Anti Hero” at karaoke night, painting tote bags and watching the Super Bowl are all more fun with friends! 

#3: Instagram DMs

Don’t be afraid to slide into the DMs (wink, wink)! No, but actually, I found some AMAZING friends through Instagram. It’s never been easier and faster to find people who have common interests and favorite places by simply scrolling through a few posts and highlights. This allows you to skip the awkward: “What’s your favorite color?” phase and it makes finding hangout ideas way easier. Don’t forget: DO NOT keep your friendship purely online via messaging. Make plans to meet up or else your new friendship may die down and expire!

#4: Clubs & Extracurriculars

A group of girls have a picnic outside and laugh.
Original photo by Kate Green

Last, but definitely not least: JOIN CLUBS THAT INTEREST YOU (this is in all caps for a reason!). I will be the first to admit, I didn’t prioritize this during my first quarter, but once I did, I quickly discovered the big difference that it makes in your social life. By joining extracurricular activities that you enjoy, you are guaranteed to meet people with similar passions and hobbies.

Pro tip: Join a balance of major-related and fun clubs. This will allow you to have a more diverse group of friends that will last you for life!

Danielle is a second-year from Temecula, CA. Her articles range from sharing interviews with influential figures, discussing the ups and downs of being a young woman in LA, and spreading positive energy through diverse stories! Happy reading!