You don’t know this yet, but you have a lot of maturing and growing up to do. These next four years are going to be a free trial in your life. It’ll be a free pass to be stupid and make mistakes — maybe get your heart broken because, again, we all make mistakes. You probably won’t talk to the first friend you meet in class or at a social event by the end of your four years, but you will have memories and friends who have helped you grow and become a stronger, more independent person.
You will have friends stay, leave or just straight-up ghost you. And if they do, then it’s really a blessing in disguise. There’s a reason they aren’t in your life anymore. Maybe without you realizing it, the friendship became toxic. Maybe they took too much without giving in return. Regardless, it’s not your fault. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there but always be cautious about who you trust.
I know this is your time to have freedom, but know it’s okay to miss home. It’s okay to miss having a more scheduled and disciplined life. It’s all about finding independence within yourself. If you are struggling, please seek help. You aren’t alone.
With this newfound freedom comes the double-edged sword called dating apps. I’ve been off and on them my whole college career. I’m not going to sugarcoat it, it’s rough out there. You will get played, used and taken advantage of. It’s easier said than done but always be careful what you share with a stranger via messenger. If you don’t find love in college, that’s okay. You’re young — enjoy being single and selfish. You’ll have the rest of your life to take care of someone else and take life seriously with a job and other responsibilities.
Lastly, be open and have fun. College is a great time to not just grow and get an education but to experience new things. But it’s also important to know your limits. Remember, it’s not a race to rush through all your firsts. There’s no timeline for that. Just continue to do you and the rest will come naturally.