Despite being a writer, I used to struggle a lot with writing cards. It felt like I was giving the same one-size-fits-all message regardless of the person or event I was writing for. Over the last few years, I’ve realized that I want to take more pride in the cards I send– after all, they’re often a full expression of your appreciation for the person you’re making them for! I didn’t want to put half-effort into something so important, so I began to branch out and find ways to make my cards more unique. Here are some of my favorite discoveries on how to do so:
- write longer messages
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I’ve never shied away from writing cards that could be considered borderline essays. Sometimes “happy birthday, I’m thankful to have you in my life!” alone just doesn’t cut it. Consider why you appreciate this person, traits they have that you admire, and specific moments in your shared lives you want to highlight. Remind them how amazing they are and why you’re proud of them! My friends love when I give them long messages, and I get excited to receive them as well; it’s a nice way to keep tangible reminders of my own worth and the relationships I’ve worked to grow. I think that’s the best part about writing heartfelt cards– they can really help when someone needs extra affirmation during a hard time.
- tell a story
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Bring up an old memory, especially if it’s something they might not remember! You could tell the story of how you met them and what your first thoughts were, an instance where they supported you in a time of need, or a memory that makes you laugh to this day.
- handmake it!
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Handmade cards feel so special compared to store bought ones. Buy some colorful cardstock and draw things your loved one likes! Learning calligraphy was great for me, as I’m now able to quickly write out names and messages in a way that looks printed. If art isn’t your strong suit, you can decorate with a collage of stickers and photos, or even press your own flowers and glue them on.
- use something other than a card
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Some of the most memorable gifts are the ones that think outside the box. You don’t need a traditional card to convey a heartfelt message– I love buying books for my friends and family and writing my message inside the cover. Other ideas I’ve seen include gifting a locket with a message inside, making a video compilation of memories, and decorating a deck of playing cards with reasons you appreciate them.
Regardless of the specific method, telling the people in your life that you love them is something you can never do too often. Sometimes, the most memorable gifts aren’t from birthdays or big celebrations, but the ones that you give for no reason other than wanting to show your love.
