Every day, we face instances that test our ability to display the quality of courage. But, let’s be real, none of us are slaying dragons or preparing ourselves for an alien invasion. The most courageous act I’ve done recently is trying to eat at Main Stacks. Since it’s cuffing season, I’ve wondered what courage could do for our love lives.
I recently learned that a key determinant of success is grit. We could all use a little success in our love lives, right? Courage is characteristic of grit, and grit is characteristic of those who display resilience and an open mindset to accomplishing goals. If you’ve been stuck imagining romantic scenarios or picturing yourself asking out your crush, your love life becomes a vacuum — harboring at the top of your mind with nowhere to land. When the time comes, there’s pivotal moment for you to materialize your feelings into a relationship. It takes grit to seek out those opportunities and seize them before they disappear. For those looking to get cuffed, I think there is a lesson to be learned here.
Living in the digital world has skewed my expectations of romance. These days, it seems that the equivalent of receiving flowers is having someone slide into your DMs. With the mentality of instant gratification and the emphasis on the visual in social media, it’s easy to forget the personal aspect of cuffing season. Eventually, those messages should be relayed in-person.
I guess the advice I’m trying to give to those serious about pursuing relationships this season is to use small acts of courage to cuff the person in mind. If that means making an uncomfortable amount of eye contact with that stranger, shoot your shot.