I got the idea to write this article when watching the movie (from the GIF above) When Harry Met Sally, for the fiftieth time. In the movie Harry, the male in the GIF, tells Sally, the female, that he does not believe that men and women could be friends because the topic, thought, and/or act of sex, always comes in and inevitably results in the demise of said friendship. Whenever I watch this movie, I have about a second to think about it before I shake my head furiously because of course men and women can be friends. Where do we get the idea of men and women only being together for sexual pleasure and/or to fulfill society’s relationship quota?
It ties into the ‘friendzone’. Now, there is a lot of buzz around this term with some believing that it is utterly ridiculous because, in the point of view of a woman, just because we are nice to you and hang out with you, and you know, be friends with you, does not mean that our level of relationship can somehow upgrade into sex and/or being partners. This of course translates to men in the vice versa sense.
The other side of this coin is that well, said individual is attracted to you and you should not be putting them in the friendzone. It is all about attraction with men and women. Harry counter acts my opinion by saying that whether a male is attracted to female or not, he still wants to “nail her.” I know for myself, not necessarily wanting to engage in a sexual act with a friend, but emotionally falling for a friend, I believe, is what ruins a friendship faster than a sexual attraction. What do you think? Is it sex that ruins a friendship or is it falling for your friend? Are these individual things or are they connected? Comment below!
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