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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at U Iowa chapter.

You hear it often… “right person, wrong time.” But in reality, how true is this concept? They say “if only you met a year earlier” or “a year later or circumstances were different,” yet the unfortunate truth is that the right person doesn’t always come along at the right time and that can make all of the difference.

You would think that if you meet the right person, someone you love with your entire being, then everything would find a way to work itself out. But life is complicated.


However, sometimes what you see as “right,” is simply not right at that moment.

There will be people you meet that represent what you need most at that point in your life, people who look and feel like manifestations of what you want at that moment. These types of people include the flaky musician when you just need a little culture, the person you have absolutely nothing in common with when you want to travel outside of your comfort zone and the fuck boy you want to have some fun with before you actually get serious about settling down with someone.

Subconsciously, we prioritize certain things in our lives, and the people we choose to date will most likely reflect those prioritizations. With time, these prioritizations may change.

The difference is in recognizing whether it’s the wrong time, or simply the wrong person. Relationships fail for many reasons: either you or the other person wasn’t ready or maybe there was someone else in the picture. Whatever that reason may be, is it fair to blame it on the timing of things?

Is it possible to meet the right person at the wrong time? It’s not so much a matter of whether this concept is accurate or not, but rather if it rings true for you. It’s all about perspective.

The human condition is a complicated one. There is both beauty and pain in believing in a “right person, wrong time.” Either way, it is a learning experience. Some people will be lucky enough to fall in love with the right person and discover that it is the right time. Others might find themselves looking back and wishing things could have turned out differently. 

Relationships are always tricky. When one ends, you may find yourself trying to hold onto something that is no longer there. You might long for how things were or wonder how they might have been had something changed. If you believe that there is a right person out there for you, then give it time. If something is meant to be, it will work itself out. On the other hand, you also need to accept that maybe things turned out how they should have and that as much as you enjoyed your time with this person, it is time to start moving on. 

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Hey! I’m Marrissa and I’m a junior at the University of Iowa majoring in Journalism and Business. Writing and playing sports are two things I love to do. You can follow my instagram @marrissacraff. ✭