After collecting advice from several different girls and guys who have had hurtful break-ups, we have concluded that (drumroll please)… break-ups suck. I am sure you already knew that though but there is a light in break-up situations. The girls that were interviewed all gave advice on how to deal with the hurt as well as how to move forward.
Here are some do’s, don’t and possibilities.
Thinking, Time, and Space
DO: Give yourself time to intensively think
For whatever reason you all broke up, it is easy to think that it is all about him and that whatever he requested, whether it is space or something else, that he is the only one who needs this. Remember that the relationship is always about two people so you need to take time as well as him.
During this time, take in what has happened, what he said, and any faults of his and yours. Yes, think about the faults of your own too. You have to address all entities in order to get a full understanding and move forward. Simultaneously to your thinking process, you should be giving you and him space.
DON’T: Rush or anticipate
There is no time limit on how long you need to take to regroup yourself. Every situation is different; you are ready when you feel like you are, but until you are ready keeping taking your space from him. When you talk to him again you have to have a strong sense of how you feel and an open mindset.
With that said, DO NOT anticipate him calling or texting you. Do not expect this from him. He may or may not you will never know, but if you have something you want to say to him after your thinking process go for it. I know, a lot of people advices waiting on him, but if you need to say something so you can move forward do it.
Ultimately…
Remember do not think of your break-up in a negative light. Relationship, have no beginning or end it’s a circle. This relationship will come back up later whether you are at place and you remember a time you all shared or you all get back together. Anything can happen and no one knows the answer, but just keep moving forward wherever that may lead you.
Stay tuned for… Modern Love: Life after Break-up, Part 2
The Next Step