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How To: NOT get Mad at Your Boyfriend

Her Campus Placeholder Avatar Ellendrea McKissack
Her Campus Placeholder Avatar Peter Frankman
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at U Iowa chapter.

Like my boyfriend’s grandmother says “He is like a Sour Patch kid, just as sour as he is sweet.” Of course we think our boyfriends are loving, compassionate and the greatest people in the world….sometimes. The other times they are annoying beyond compare. That’s when you have to love them more.

Be Sugary Sweet

They do not respond well to yelling and screaming. No brainer right, but this is usual the first reaction when your boyfriend gets on your nerves. Reverse your anger into sweetness. Instead of having a temper tantrum and screaming to the top of your lungs at him use a calm voice. This voice catches their attention quicker than yelling and they retain more of what you said. It works I tried it.


To Know Him is To Really Know Him

Some things never change. If ever since you met him he always leaves his shoes in the middle of your room, do not get fussy when you trip over them, like you always do. It is really nothing to start a war about (unless you hurt yourself when you tripped). Go to him and give him a firm but gentle reminder. Warning you might have to do this more than once but that ok, too. If you get really angry over something that small it only accumulates, then turns into a bigger issue. By not getting so roweled up, it reduces the stress for the both of you.

Talk it out  

On the contrary, if something really bothers you talk to him about it. There is a distinct line between things he does that are just annoying or things that really bother you or hurt your feelings. Sometimes in can be difficult to figure out how to approach him, but just do it. You can talk to your mother or your friends about it, but as my boyfriend say to me “at the end of the day it’s just you and me.” In other words, talking to everyone else does not solve the problem you have to go to the source.  Tell him you need to talk to him about something to make sure you have his attention and then tell him exactly how you feel. It can be slightly intimidating, but once you do it you realize it was not as difficult as you expected.  
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Peter Frankman is an underclassman at the University of Iowa from Burbank, California. He has a few addictions in his life: writing, reading, heavy metal, Adult Swim, and any movie with zombies. He joined The University of Iowa's Her Campus team as the writer of the "From a Guy's Perspective" articles in January 2011 and hasn't looked back since (except to make sure he doesn't write the same article twice). Peter's a major in both Journalism and Creative Writing and hopes to become a writer in some way, shape or form after he graduates. That or the President of the United States, he hasn't really focused too much to say anything decisive yet... or maybe he has, we're not quite sure. If he had to choose a night of guilty pleasures it would include the Beastie Boys, Monster Import: Light, Zebra Cakes, and a marathon of subpar movies that he thinks are amazing (Blade, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Fast and the Furious, etc).