I’m sure we have all seen videos on our “For You Page” with these “relationship experts” or “relationship coaches” telling us what it means if the person you are interested in, or dating does one thing slightly different. I definitely get those all the time, and it makes me overthink every little detail. Most of the time, I take everything I hear and believe it is correct since these are the experts speaking out…right? The more I thought about it and the more videos I saw contradicting each other, as well as my own experiences contradicting the experts, I started to realize that not everything they say is always correct.
There is one viral video in particular where a creator by the name of Mariel Darling says, “If he asks you how your day was…girl, you’re in!” A lot of other creators have stitched it, making fun of her and explaining how relationship standards in today’s day and age have gone completely down to the bare minimum, and saying that this is a ridiculous statement to base whether or not a person has feelings for you. I completely agree, considering everyday a majority of people I know also ask me how my day was, and for me I also am curious and ask most people the same question.
Another thing I see a lot of is the saying, “If they wanted to they would,” which I in fact used to live by. However, growing and going through college, certain hardships, and meeting new people, I learned you cannot always believe this. In some instances, yes, if they wanted to they would, but other times, people just simply cannot. There are a lot more factors that go into life than just someone wanting to do something.
Yes, you can make the argument that if people really wanted to do something they would find any way in their power to be able to do it. In today’s world you have to take into account things such as mental health, problems with money (especially as college students), previous engagements, work that needs to be done, and so much more. Relationship advice from anywhere or anyone will not always apply to you, and can get annoying, especially if it is unwarranted.
Again, there is more to consider and no two people are the same, no relationship is the same, which is why I believe we have to take all the relationship advice we get on TikTok with a grain of salt. Yes, some of it can be very true, and sometimes it is not what we want to hear, but everyone’s relationships are their own, and no one said they would be easy and would not occasionally take some extra work.
You also cannot believe everything you hear on the internet, including someone’s credentials to be judging another random relationship where they have never met either of the two people before. In a world where people create “icks” and “red flags” out of almost anything and everything, we cannot let the internet decide if a person is into us or not. It depends on your preferences and standards as well as how you choose to handle certain situations. Your happiness is up to you and only you. If you do not want to lose someone, then make sure you do everything in your power not to. Sometimes things don’t work out unfortunately, however, always do what’s best for you and your relationship. At the end of the day, a relationship is for the two people in it to judge and decide what is best for them.