Are you stressed? Are you happy, but waiting for the next letdown to happen (like I catch myself, as a college student, doing sometimes)? Are you worried? Hopefully, these three key points can help!
- Everything is meant to be
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Whatever it is that may be occurring in your life right now and you are not a fan of, I can promise you it IS for the better. Life has an interesting way of spinning itself to teach you a lesson that could have easily been learned through reading a book. We all have probably heard the phrase “Trust The Process” more times than one can count. But life truly is the ultimate process; it is always changing and throwing things at you. Well… processes surely have many steps and fumbles along the way! Whether you’re upset about an internship, stressed about a club, a job, relations, etc, try to trust that the things that are meant to be, WILL work out with effort and time. The ones that don’t work out were never supposed to anyway because you are meant for something that will make you even happier.
- regretting is for losers
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No regrets. No regrets at all. Putting yourself down and regretting is a very negative way to think about the past, with an extremely ineffective outcome. What you did or said is in the past, and there is nothing that can be done about it except make amends and move on. Amends don’t have to always be made with another person. You can make amends with yourself, which can only benefit you. You truly did not know any better! If you were able to relive that moment twice, I bet your mind would make the same decision, because some things are only learned through experience. No reason to be so harsh on yourself… we’re ALL human!!
- cancel hatred
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Intrapersonal problems are quite common in our world. Maybe it’s a conflict with a significant other, maybe a friend, a roommate, etc. We all can surely think of something that somebody has done to upset us. And while it is easy to be tempted to react harshly, holding hatred for someone in your heart only does damage to you. Everybody has gone through some hardships in their life or was brought up in certain ways. You don’t know the complete past of anybody (even the siblings who you grew up with were probably raised differently than you and have gone through dissimilar experiences). Chances are, if somebody has unfairly done something to you, they are not happy with themselves and could be going through something. Wishing for their well-being speaks volumes and is a much healthier way of looking at things. We are all learning life for the first time. Hence there shouldn’t be a strong reason to hold something against somebody to a deep level (that benefits no one). In no way shape or form should this be prompting to pretend like nothing happened or forget what did, at least not without a properly genuine conversation. However, I think it hurts no one to be cordial and understanding. You might find yourself surprised when you realize how good it can make you feel when you know you’re always kind and don’t have many actions to be ashamed of. Let’s altogether cancel hatred. We can all surely go from an angry point of view to a neutral one. If I can do it, you can surely do it!
Hopefully, these three tips can help and be applied to your life. While I am not a mental health expert, these tips have guided my experiences so far. Remember that a healthy mind is a healthy life!