A common theme of college is independence. For most college students, you are living without your parents for the first time in a place that is unfamiliar to you. Consequently, this may cause many students to feel isolated or alone. While it may feel like you are the only one experiencing this feeling, you are not alone in feeling alone. The American College Health Association reported that 64% of college students surveyed said they had felt “very lonely” within the last year. Only 19% of students responded that they had never felt lonely.
While it’s a common experience for freshmen, loneliness in college can happen to anyone. Loneliness is not an easy feeling to combat, but it can be done. Here are some ways that you can overcome loneliness in college.
1. Acknowledge your feelings
It is easy, if not a human instinct, to push any negative feelings away. We dislike discomfort, and feelings, such as loneliness, often result in discomfort. Despite this, accepting that you are feeling lonely can help you process and overcome these feelings. Instead of ignoring your loneliness, tell yourself “I feel lonely and that is okay”. Any unwanted feelings that you are experiencing are valid and it is important to instill that mindset in yourself.
2. Disconnect from Social Media
Social media can make us feel like we are the only ones feeling alone or depressed. This is because social media is a highlight reel of people’s lives. It does not depict reality, but rather a selective, curated form of reality. Remember to ask yourself: “Am I displaying my negative moments on social media?” If the answer is no, which it probably is, then assume that people are doing the same thing. Consume social media wisely. If Instagram is making you feel less than, consider taking a break from it.
3. Reach out to People
As self explanatory as it may sound, reach out to people! Try to make friends through clubs or introduce yourself to the people in the dorm next to you. Clubs are a great way to meet people, because they allow you to bond over a common interest with someone. Although it may be scary, leaving your comfort zone socially or in general can allow you to branch out and meet others. Even asking a friend to lunch is an easy way to connect with others.
4. Learn to be comfortable with being alone
It is unrealistic to expect to be surrounded by people all of the time. While it is important to maintain relationships with others, a little alone time is necessary for self growth and reflection. Alone time allows you to develop a relationship with the most important person in your life: yourself. Get to know yourself better by taking yourself out to eat or exploring Philly. Try picking up a hobby, such as painting or going to the gym.
With some practice, you will adapt to being alone sometimes, which is an accomplishment in itself.