As sorority recruitment creeps up on us, many emotions begin to emerge. Excitement, anticipation, fear, anxiety: a whole wave of different feelings. While going through recruitment is an amazing experience, it is important to remember that no matter the outcome, you will be okay. Every individual has a different sorority experience, but that difference never changes someone’s beauty, personality, or worth.
The stress of recruitment is inevitable. All over campuses, social media accounts are buzzing, people are talking: the lure of sorority recruitment overtakes. When people begin talking, rumors are created. If I could tell my younger self one thing, it would be, “don’t listen to what others say.” Most people are going to have their opinions, and some of these may be convincing, but another person’s opinion does not have to define yours. Every organization has its own beauty and uniqueness. No organization is “better” than others, it is all based on who you fit in with!
While going through rounds, it can be intimidating talking to so many new girls. “What do I talk about?” “What are they going to think of me?” “What if I sound nervous?” Chances are, the girls on the other side recruiting are feeling the same way. The best thing you can do is be unapologetically yourself. The ultimate goal is to find girls that allow you to thrive and become the best version of yourself.
What to remember during rounds:
- Be proud of who you are. Do not change to fit in.
- Enjoy the experience. No matter the outcome, you meet so many amazing women that could end up being a large part of your life.
- Do not compare yourself. This is easier said than done, but remember: being unique is a good thing. If you’re looking around thinking, “why does everyone seem so confident and happy?” Remember you are not alone in feeling nervous. A lot of people are putting on a brave face.
“Getting dropped” can seem like the end of the world. It feels as if you did something wrong. That could not be further from the truth. Most of the time that organization was simply not the best fit. Whether you get dropped from one or all of the organizations, that does not change your worth. Recruitment is tough. There are so many amazing girls signing up to be in organizations, but not everyone is going to get what they want. It is an amazing learning experience in how to bounce back from rejection or go along with challenges. There is so much to be gained from recruitment, not just being in an organization.
At the end of recruitment, many are enthralled, many are heartbroken. What I hope every girl can remember despite their experience is: you are enough. Sororities are great, but sometimes life chooses a different path for you. It is okay to be sad. It is okay to feel angry. But no one should feel lesser. No matter the sorority a person is in, that is not their defining quality. If a girl is not in sorority, that is not their defining quality. Sororities are simply an addition in someone’s life.
So if you are going through recruitment or have already, remember that it is not the end of the world. There are so many more experiences to come whether they be in college or after. There is more love and joy to come. Whatever the ending result of sorority recruitment is, you are still the same beautiful woman you started as.