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Why Millennial Dating Sucks

I hate dating. Despise it. And our generation is terrible at dating. In this digital age connecting with people has never been easier, but at the same time, it’s never been easier being exposed to the wrong kind of people. There are a lot of guys I have dated that I look back on and cringe. Maybe I’m just too sweet, perhaps I am a pushover, or perhaps I am just a damaged desperate person looking any attention.  Whatever the case may be, I have tolerated and forgiven a lot of scum bag behaviours that I criticize my friends for accepting. Honestly, what is wrong with me? I just recently decided that I don’t want to date anymore. Dating just isn’t for me. I’m tired of meeting guys who can barely remember my name, who spend the majority of the date staring at my chest and who can struggle to hold small talk conversations. Nope, my time is far too valuable to be wasted on another disaster date. 

Always another option 
Why would any guy want to settle down when he could land another girl within 5 minutes swiping on Tinder? There will still be someone more beautiful than you, more accessible than you and a lot less complicated than you. Sadly with so many options conveniently at our finger tips, the temptation is always around the corner. I think Abby Lee Miller said it best, “everyone is replaceable.” 

Smash, Smash and Smash (but no strings attached) 
Do you want to know how many offers I got to be a sex buddy the last two months? I don’t even know; I lost count after 13. I have yet to meet a nice guy that hasn’t mentioned sex within the first 20 minutes of the meeting. I get that it’s a biological need and an entirely natural thing to do, but there is more to life than just sex. Sex is fun and all but my idea of fun I would be curling up in my bed with my significant other eating pizza and watching Netflix. That sounds like the damn good time I would 100 percent always be down for. 

No point? 
To me, the point of dating would be to find someone to form a relationship with. Typically you want to see this person every day, they make you happy and you have amazing chemistry. I mean that’s what I look for when I am dating, but the majority of people I would say don’t know what they want. They might be looking for a friend with benefits, a fling, one-night stand or maybe they want something more meaningful too. 

 

If you couldn’t tell I have a very cynical approach to dating now, but to be fair, I haven’t had the best experience. For right now I don’t think I am in the best position to be dating, but I hope to maybe jump back in the dating pool in a few months or years. Overall, I have learned a fair bit about dating, what I want in a partner and what I don’t want. Most importantly, I learned a lot about myself.

Amneet is a 4th year communications student at Simon Fraser University. Born and raised in the city of Surrey, she loves the sound of rain, in fact she listens to rain sounds every night to help her sleep. Her favorite past times include: reading, binge watching Netflix shows and perfecting the art of sarcasm. You can get to know her more by following her Instagram: amku2500.
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