Okay ladies, buckle up and get ready for something I think we’ve all been needing. That’s right, finally some relationship advice from a man’s perspective! I have interviewed 3 guys who all fall under different relationship statuses and asked them the same set of questions in hopes it would give us girls a little bit of perspective.
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Man A: In the talking stage of a relationship/not official
Man B: Single
Man C: In a long-term relationship
1. What do you look for in a girl physically?
Man A: I like a girl with a nice smile… a pretty smile just gets me every time.
Man B: I like a girl who’s healthy, she doesn’t have to be skinny but not 600lbs either. I also prefer a girl who is shorter than me.
Man C: I look at a girl’s eyes first, so if she has pretty eyes I’m all in.
2. What do you look for in a girl personality wise?
Man A: I really want a girl to go on adventures with me, who isn’t afraid to get a little dirty.
Man B: Someone decisive and confident.
Man C: Someone who isn’t bitchy all the time.
3. How often do you think about the future?
Man A: Almost never.
Man B: Never.
Man C: Rarely.
4. What constitutes a “good date”?
Man A: When you feel like you’ve really connected with someone.
Man B: Good conversation – If we’re at a restaurant how you treat the waiter says a lot about you.
Man C: The vibe – whether or not it’s good.
5. What’s the difference between a date and just hanging out?
Man A: Whether I pay, or we split the bill.
Man B: A date is planned and there’s a set time and date. Just hanging out is spontaneous.
Man C: Whether or not the guy makes a move.
6. When is it time to DTR (define the relationship)?
Man A: After 3 dates.
Man B: Once you want to be exclusive.
Man C: Whenever it feels right.
7. How do you attract a guy?
Man A: BE HAPPY!
Man B: Present yourself well and have a good reputation because I don’t want the girl everyone else has already had.
Man C: Dress confidently and be comfortable in your own skin.
8. What are the best flirting strategies a girl can use?
Man A: Physical contact is a big signal that you’re attracted to someone.
Man B: Laugh at a guy’s jokes! I want to make you happy, so if you like me, please laugh.
Man C: Smile, it goes a long way!
9. Good topics for conversation?
Man A: Sports or school to start out.
Man B: Where you’re from, family, and hobbies. Please no politics!
Man C: Just talk about what you like and ask him about what he likes.
10. When is it time to get physical/have sex?
Man A: Whenever she’s ready.
Man B: When you’re both ready.
Man C: Whenever you both feel ready. Make sure to talk about it first.
11. When should you meet the parents?
Man A: After 4 months.
Man B: When you’ve been together for at least a month.
Man C: Whenever you’re serious about the relationship.
12. What are the keys to a strong relationship?
Man A: Being present when you’re together – Get off your phone!!!
Man B: Trust is a big deal and being able to be 100% honest with each other.
Man C: Communication really is a big key to a good relationship, just try not to nag too much.
I hope that this Q&A session has helped you get a sneak a peek into the minds of men. However, keep in mind that this is only the opinions of a few men and not all of them. Remember to be confident no matter what because the right guy is out there, you just have to be patient and stay positive!