Ever felt like you’re in a game of tug-of-war between two or more sides? Being the mediator in a situation coming from either 2+ friends or 2+ family members sucks. Either one side or the other wants you to side with them. Sometimes it’s to the point where you feel bad if you interact with one side and then worry that the other side would be upset. I’ve been through to that a few times (and counting) and it’s nerve-wracking. Here are some things that I would do if I were in that situation:
- STAY NEUTRAL
This is ESSENTIAL. If you don’t want to risk ruining friendships or relationships, it’s best not to take sides unless if necessary. It’s ok to agree with people but make sure to hear the other side out, and it would still be ok to agree with that side does.
- Don’t stir up the situation
This tip supports the first tip. If you don’t want to worsen the situation, it’s best not to try to do something that would feed into the situation.
- Be a support
In situations like these, it can not only be stressful towards you as a mediator but towards the fighting parties. You should always reach out and make sure everyone is ok to show that you care about them as well.
- Don’t get too invested in the situation
As I said, it’s very tiring mediating an argument. Sometimes, it’s best to take a step back and let time take its course. You don’t always have to be the person to fix something that doesn’t directly involve you.