Love is the simplest form of emotion, yet it is the most complicated. You have probably gone your whole life experiencing love whether it stems from love within your family and relationships, loving a favorite stuffed animal as kid or loving a favorite song or movie. Whatever it is, love is all around, and everyone feels it. I believe there are four “don’ts” when it comes to the overcomplicated emotion that is love.
But, before the list, just remember everyone shows love differently and some do genuinely struggle to show love. Just because someone shows love differently from you, or not in the same amount, does not mean the love presented is not equal, it’s simply different.
1. Don’t give love where it does not belong
END THE SITUATIONSHIP!! END THE FRIENDSHIPS!! QUIT THE JOB!! If you are in a situation or relationship where you are putting your love, time, money, effort and happiness into it, yet, you do not see any of it reciprocated, LET IT GO. Take back your self-respect and put that love into yourself, different relationships, and other hobbies to where you will feel cared for, respected, and loved.
2. Don’t miss the chance to express your love.
Say it as often as you can (when they deserve it). You will never regret telling your best friends, significant other or family members you love them and appreciate them. You can either tell them just in general that you love them or after an activity. For example, say you and your best friend just took a nice relaxing and peaceful walk and at the end you tell them “Hey I love you and I really appreciate that we were able to do this together.” It is a simple and effective way to show you cherish them and your friendship but as mentioned do not do it where it does not belong.
3. Don’t take it for granted.
You may love someone or something without even realizing it. A favorite study spot on campus, walking your dog along a certain trail or reading books, these are all little things that people may love and not even realize until they no longer have it. Love is everywhere and because we are so familiar with it that feeling it can be easy to miss in every little day item. So, I encourage you to reflect on yourself and all the little things you love and then surround yourself with those things as much as possible.
4. Don’t Put anything above self-love.
Lastly, you cannot FULLY put your love into someone or something else unless you love yourself. Loving your own mind, body and soul is what will allow you to make others feel loved. Learning to appreciate yourself and feel confident in yourself will make the previous three steps easier, I promise.