Let’s talk about the daunting word: vulnerability. Recently, I’ve viewed being emotionally vulnerable as a terrible idea. “Vulnerability means being authentic about how you are feeling, and truthful about who you are and how things you have experienced have affected you” (Sheri Jacobson). We’ve all realized that moment we were too vulnerable, making us overthink our emotional exposure in the future. I came across a TED Talk “The power of vulnerability” by Brené Brown, an American professor, lecturer, author, and podcast host. She is known for her research on shame, vulnerability and leadership. I am a huge fan of TED Talks.
Now, I think vulnerability is truly an accurate measure of courage, so, why is it sometimes identified as a weakness? Jacobson talked about the courage to be imperfect and the willingness to let go of who you should be, and be completely yourself. You have to embrace vulnerability. It’s necessary to possess because really amazing opportunities step from… drumroll.. being vulnerable! Yes, I know, it’s uncomfortable to feel uncertain and emotionally exposed, but these feelings are essential. I reached a point where I became too closed off and isolated. Jacobson talked about numbing vulnerability in a very vulnerable world. While I listened to this podcast, I realized by numbing vulnerability, I was also numbing many other feelings.
You have to let yourself be seen.
When you allow yourself the chance to be hurt, doors will open. I think this is one of the best things someone can do. Shyness will decrease, and you will learn a lot about yourself. I think of times I was vulnerable to people and sometimes regret it, but it didn’t always make me feel bad. There are also good outcomes. Outcomes that change you as a person completely. I think most of us automatically think of “failed” relationships when it comes to the word, which is understandable. We open ourselves up to others with this quality and can sometimes face rejection or complete let down. I found that there this word has different meanings for different genders, but that’s another conversation for another day. In any aspect of your life, approach vulnerability carefully, but don’t be embarrassed to be vulnerable.
I want you to ask yourself: when was the last time you were vulnerable? What did it feel like? Do you view it as a strength or weakness? And how can you work on changing your outlook?
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