Having a twin has both its ups and downs, so it is not all good, but it is not all bad either. There have been many days when I wished I didn’t have a twin because she was annoying or because I wanted all the spotlight for myself. But, there were also a lot of days where I was thankful that I got to grow up with a twin and had someone who was the same age as me while I was growing up.
Pros
- Being able to do everything together
Being able to have someone always there who was the same age as you and could do everything you wanted to do was always fun. I never had to do anything alone because my twin sister and I did it together. When we had to go to summer camps, school, or other things we always had each other to go through those events with. It was nice to know that I had someone there that I knew and someone that I could have fun with and go through boring or fun things with.
2. Having a built-in best friend
I always know that no matter what I have someone who has my back and will always support me. My twin is someone who I can always count on and would have my back in any way. I never have to worry that I will be left alone or will have nobody to be there for me because I know that she will always be there no matter what. I know that I could tell her anything and that we could exchange secrets and have trust that those secrets would be kept.
3. The future
Knowing that I have a twin sister makes me excited for the future because I know that if I had kids and she did too, they would be best friends! Being able to see where she is at and where I am at in our lives is something very special to me. We are the same age, have the same home and family, yet we are living completely different lives right now. I think that is such a cool thing and it makes me excited to see what the future holds for the both of us.
Cons
- Having to share
I am telling you when I had to share just about everything, I actually had to share everything. Especially when we were younger, we had to share our parents’ attention, we got fewer gifts because people had to buy for two instead of one, had to share a room for a while, shared a school, shared friends, and so on. It was hard for me to feel like my own person in these cases because I was sharing my whole life with someone else who is the same age as me.
2. People mixed up our names
It got to be quite annoying when people mixed up our names on a regular basis. My twin and I are fraternal, so we are not identical. We look like sisters, but we do look like vastly different people. I think it was the fact that once people knew we were twins they suddenly started to forget whose name was whose. Even people who have known us for a long time continued to get our names mixed up which got irritating.
Overall, I am thankful for my sister and being able to have grown up with her was a blessing and continues to be a blessing. Even if we get into fights, I know that we can always bounce back from them, and I can count on her always.