When you start any sort of relationship with someone, there is an unintentional routine that forms. And this routine becomes one of the most comforting things to have in life. Especially when it feels like everything else around you is unstable. There is a safe feeling when your love life becomes part of your daily routine.
My Daily Love Life: The Fall 2021 Routine
Monday-Friday
- Him: Good Morning text sent between 5:45-7:00am
- Me: Good Morning text sent between 8:30-10:30am
- Letting each other know when we get to work/school all safe
- Middle of the day check in’s
- “I’m running to Wegmans can I get you anything?”
- Tuesdays/Thursdays: Giving me occasional rides home
Having busy weeks between work and school, this brief time together is so nice. This gives us space to just have a conversation and update each other on how things are going with our week.
- Spontaneous phone calls throughout the week
- Daily “Remember to drink water” and “what did you eat today?”
- Him: End of the day text between 7:30-9:30pm
- Me: Goodnight text sent between Midnight-3:00am
- FridYAY: These are nights we typically set aside to spend time with each other or sometimes plans on our own with our friends. (Because maintaining friendships outside of your relationship is definitely healthy and okay!)
- Weekends: Saturdays/Sundays
Saturdays I work all day.
- Surprise visits at work on my break
- Bringing me something to eat or drink during my shift
Sundays are usually the day we dedicate to being lazy and stay in comfy clothes.
- Study sessions
- Pizza and fries night
- Him helping me with homework
- Movie night
Then we restart.
Routines can feel entrapping sometimes, and that’s okay. It helps to have moments where you do something spontaneous and change things up a bit.
As of right now, I’m a senior trying to graduate while balancing working almost 30 hours a week, and handling my personal life. And this routine feels comforting and safe for me.