You’re out with your girls and you spot a cutie in the corner surrounded by his friends. Eye contact is made and a flirty smile exchanged. In your head, you’ve already planned out the wedding, how many kids you’re going to have (including all their names) and where you want to live.
Then something hits you. Not literally.
But you realize this is too easy—how many girls has he shared that same smile and dance with? What if he’s…a player?!
Look out for the following signs:
He only texts you at night: Your phone vibrates at 1 in the morning and the brightness of your phone nearly blinds you. The words on your screen read: “What’s up.” Best thing to do when this happens is to ignore and continue with your beauty sleep. Texting only at night signals that he wants a little late night excitement before bed. Why couldn’t he text you during the day?
He never wants you to hang out with his friends: See the group of guys he hangs with? Well, those are his amigos, bros for life. And he if doesn’t introduce you to them, then he probably doesn’t think you’re worth it. Scratch that, he’s not worth it.
He only wants to hang out on the weekend: As soon as that Saturday night is over, it’s a new week. If he doesn’t at least shoot you a text before the weekend starts, then he’s not interested in making time for you. You might be thinking “well he’s probably really busy”, but I’m sure not busy enough to at least say hi.
He flips questions: It’s like a game of cat and mouse… without the running. When there’s something you really want to know, he’ll flip it so that he’s the one doing the asking. This is when you really need to evaluate what you want with him.
He emphasizes certain points: “You can trust me” “Why would I lie?” Things like this should make your brow raise…hmm
Another useful tip in identifying players is the vibes. Are you getting good vibes from this person? Are you comfortable around them—are they too touch? Think before rushing head first into dating him and end up getting hurt.
But of course he could be a nice friend, but maybe not someone you would want to date. If you do go ahead and take the chance then good luck!
Stay beautiful, Collegiettes!