Happy love month babes. This is for all you girls in a situationship, a secure hook up/friends with benefits moment, or maybe you are hanging out with a guy you like but it hasn’t gone anywhere in the significantly coupley realm.
Listen to me so carefully. I am going to say it first up front and blunt. If you are not his girlfriend, you are NOT going to get him a valentine’s day gift. No relationship, no gift. If you have something in your physical or online cart right now, it’s going back on the shelf immediately. The one and only exception to this is if you send your boy toy a text about a valentine’s day hook up. To give the physical gift of a quality hook up is not degrading or disrespecting yourself in any way (at least in my opinion). Giving the gift of your body on February 14th is the only gift you single-ish girls should be doing.
We as females fall in love easier and faster, but we are not trying to look desperate here. Gift giving to your situationship is personally a repulsive thought. You do not owe this kid anything, especially if you both haven’t even had the “exclusive” talk. To think that girls are thinking of doing something “special” for a guy they aren’t even technically exclusive with makes me uncomfortable. Do not think that showing up with a gift in hand the next time you hangout on love day is going to be reciprocated. I am here to tell you, he is showing up empty handed, as he should. Until the label of boyfriend and girlfriend is out there for the world to know, you are not obligated nor should you buy a gift. You will be left feeling embarrassed if you put in more energy and it shows. And even if you’re not mortified by the one-sided gift tragedy, know that he will go to bed without giving it a second thought (if you’re dealing with the majority of immature college aged men).
On the off chance that your scenario looks like your situationship is legitimately approaching the direction of a true solid relationship somewhat soon, asking to hang out or go out to a very casual dinner (like I would assume you’ve already been doing) is a green light. Be sure this dinner option is nowhere near candlelit. Texting day-of to go out to your favorite spot is acceptable in the steady situationship mark of the relationship but wait to see if they text you first. You’re going to want the validation if they reach out first rather than you jumping the gun. And don’t get this mixed up with your f*ck buddy you may have raging feelings for but is not anything but physical, because he doesn’t want your “cute” gift.
Again, if you are not someone’s girlfriend, you are not buying a gift for whatever form of significant other you may have. Treat this situationship as one of those shallow friendships, like a class friend. Both your friends and situationship are on the same playing field here, meaning neither gets any sort of special treatment on Valentine’s day. Better yet, my best advice is to just change the “v” to a “g” and have a fun girl’s night without worrying about your unlabeled relationship.