Sometimes when we look at others, we subconsciously compare ourselves with them. We would always be like “Oh they’re so pretty” or “they’re so smart”. The thing we don’t realize is that these people are delusionally confident. They know they are doing the best for themselves and they know that they don’t need to compare themselves with someone else. You become more attractive when you know that you are not less or more than anyone in any way. You know you are doing the best for yourself, growing, realizing your flaws, changing those flaws, and doing all this not to show everyone, but just for yourself.
You have to walk into a room knowing that you are IT. Not in a rude or demeaning way, but in a way that shows without you having to say it. It all starts from within. If you believe in who you are and what you want to become, it won’t matter if others validate you or not. Internal validation gives you way more confidence than external validation because it is permanent, and you don’t need to expect it.
When I was growing up, I had a severe inferiority complex. I would always put others above me and let them use me without me even realizing it. I was not internally or externally attractive at all. Externally, I was a brown kid with body hair, facial hair, acne all over my face, an oily scalp, and a very skinny physique. Internally, I had anxiety issues, insecurities, and zero confidence. AND THAT’S OKAY. The day I started believing in how different I was, how pretty I was, how amazing I was, my internal and external appearance just changed. Today, the people who I chase are chasing me. These people are coming to me and saying “You’re gorgeous”. Well, thank you, I know lol. Therefore, it is the mindset. It is how you see yourself.
You can also become more attractive externally when you groom yourself well. If you have a good skincare routine, hair care routine, a rich balanced diet, find time to work out, and genuinely pamper yourself like you are the most important thing in the world, you will feel the confidence genuinely rising inside you.
Beauty is subjective. Nobody is ugly. Someone you may find ugly might look hot to someone else. The most important question is: “Do YOU think YOU are beautiful?”.