A bad hair day is just a no go and for some, doing your hair in general isn’t easy. Everyone struggles to some degree with their hair and what plans they have for it. However, for a Black girl, such as myself, hair is not that simple.
To better understand where I am coming from, let me take you through my new hairdo cycle. It all starts out with a style I’d find online that I see and think, oh my god I love that, I should do that style; maybe I’ll add some color! Once I find a style, I sit on it for a while, ask some friends and family their thoughts and start the process of transforming into my new self.
Next, I start the real work and that is prepping for wash day. There are two days that go into my wash day routine and day one is gathering supplies. It is crucial that I obtain the right hair products to help ease the process of detangling, shampooing, conditioning, applying a hair treatment, moisturizing and then oiling it. Day two is when the hard work begins: the task of actually washing my hair.
Although I try to stick to a regiment for wash day, it’s always in my nature to experiment because as I found out a long time ago, all hair is not the same. Even being a 4B-C on the hair scale, following things that other people do to their hair doesn’t fit for me.
Then comes the hardest decision of deciding if I should do the style I chose right away or wait a while and let my hair breathe. Giving my hair time without styling is essential to preventing my hair from weakening. Plus, after a wash day, I find that my hair feels fresh and smells so good, so why not wear it out and let it have its moment.
Depending on that decision comes the final process: getting the style. I’ll either book an appointment or even do it myself, but in any case, the whole regiment is expensive.
I do wish to cut my hair off at times of frustration, but then I remember all of the effort and care I put into it. I can’t just let go. So even on my bad hair days, I still love my hair. Even with knots and kinks and when I’m not feeling confident enough with my hair to go outside, I still muster up the courage or try a new quick hairdo.
To everyone having a bad hair day, try to love your hair anyway. If it’s still hard, take a breather. Your hair should be cared for, so do whatever you need to do for you to fall in love with it and maybe your hair will start to love you back.