You don’t wear makeup every day. A spontaneous trip to Target, shockingly, doesn’t sound like fun to you. You hate taking pictures. Socializing sometimes gives you a headache. You hate being “fake”. You have a tattoo and even some piercings. You’re not a preppy, bottle blonde who loves making crafts she found on Pinterest. You’re kind of like me – an atypical sorority girl. So, in order to help you survive the Barbie girl hellscape that rush can be, I’ve compiled a list of tips.
Keep an open mind.
There’s a lot of stereotyping that happens surrounding sorority girls and Greek life in general, many of which I mentioned in the opening of this article. You’ll come to find that even though you do run into living breathing examples of these stereotypes, most of the girls you’ll talk to will be far from the norm. So before you begin the rushing process, drop all the preconceived ideas you have about the girls you will meet. If you hold on to all the judgments you’ve made before you even meet someone, there’s no chance you can form a connection.
Be yourself, unapologetically
There is bound to be some judgment in a situation in which hundreds of girls are competing for a limited number of spots. So, there’s a good chance you will garner some attention from being different from the rest. However, you can use this to your advantage. As long as you embrace who you are and don’t try to assimilate, you will stand out from the crowd. This can get you some serious points with your top sorority, as you’ll never be just another face in the crowd. Put your personality on display and make them remember your name.
Remember that you’re not as different as you feel
Even though it might seem like you can’t relate to the girl wearing vineyard vines and a Pandora ring around her finger, don’t hold back. You never know where the conversation will take you. She could be into the same music as you or have grown up in the neighboring town. You will find something in common and you could end up having great chemistry. This was the most shocking part of rushing for me: I found something I was interested in to talk about with every single girl I spoke to. You’re both teenage girls living in the same place, going to the same school – you’re bound to find something to laugh over.
Breathe in, breathe out One of the most important lessons to learn during Rush Week is patience. You’re not always going to make the perfect impression that you want on your top sorority, which can lead to you getting dropped or not invited back to the next round. Sometimes sororities are looking for a particular kind of girl to fill their spots and you just may not fit into that box. Although this might hurt initially, it is only beneficial in the end. If you are different from most, you shouldn’t want to be surrounded by people who won’t celebrate and accept your unique qualities. As the old saying goes, “trust the process” and know that you’ll end up amongst people who can handle all you’ve got to offer.
Enjoy the ride
Although it may sometimes be tough, remember that it doesn’t last forever. Take the time to enjoy the hilariously ridiculous process that rush can often be. Be proud of yourself that you made a decision to put yourself through something that makes you uncomfortable. And no matter where you end up, revel in the fact that at least you made it out alive.
Rushing is tough stuff, especially when you feel like you don’t fit in. However, the process was designed so that everyone can find where they belong. So stick your guns, as well as this guide, and you’ll make it through with only slight second hand embarrassment and minimal exasperated groans.