We have all heard the stories of how a friend of a friend tamed the boy who loved to go out with a new girl every weekend and turned them into the dream boyfriend. We all have always wanted to be that girl that makes these crazy boys turn crazy for them. The thing about these boys is that they are all different in what kind of girl they are looking for in their Saturday night hook up, however, all of them have one thing in common, the love of the chase.
These boys, lets call them the uncatchable, love what they can’t have and will do anything to put the cards in their favor. The reason why they can get any girl they want any night of the week is because they have the confidence that they can get anything they put their mind to. For us girls, we tend to lack this confidence because we are blindsided by the hope of future “us”s. These boys play into our hope so as soon as a girl thinks, “they are different,” poof, they’re gone. They have perfected the game and the only way to avoid falling their trap is by being “unavailable.”
I wanted to see how accurate this mindset would work; so one Saturday night out with the girls I tried just that. The guy I picked for the night I had previously had relations with, so I was a little afraid that I wouldn’t be able to play the unavailable card due to the fact that he had already “gotten me.” When we showed up at the same party, I gave him a smirk and waved then proceeded to walk in the other direction. His face had a bit of shock on it and I loved it. My mentality of the night was just to have fun with my girls and dance to Taylor Swift’s “Shake it Off.” I had actually forgotten about him and this mindset benefitted me because I wasn’t worrying how the night would play out.
As we bumped into each other throughout the night I would only stay for a few minutes and find an excuse to disappear into the next room or another conversation. This drove him mad. I caught him watching me from across the room as I danced with my girls and talked to other people. As the night progressed I found him coming up to me more often to get my attention. The fact that I wasn’t clinging to his feet like other girls made him want me more. I realized if you are confident in yourself and know what you want, they will chase you because nothing is sexier than confidence. How do you think they got all their hookups to begin with?
The thing you always have to keep in mind with these guys is that they could snap their fingers and get any girl. Ideally, you don’t want to be one of those girls. They know all the moves, what to say, how to say it, when to say it. In order to prevent becoming his next catch and release you have to get whatever it is you want before he gets what he wants.
At the end of the night, you can never make these uncatchable boys yours if you aren’t happy with yourself. You need to find that confidence that they have, to be on your own and be satisfied with singleness before you can bring them in. One thing that I have always told myself to keep me from going boy crazy is that they need me more than I need them. So next time you find yourself turning into a five stage clinger, remember that.