Because February is the month that celebrates love and all things Black, there’s no better choice for this week’s profile to be on Black College Love! Valentine’s Day is right around the corner so we found it fitting to chat with a lovely couple here on A&T’s campus about their love for each other and a few major keys that not only helps them, but might also help you.
Names: Ivy Davenport and Xavier Hunt
Majors: Marketing (ID); Mathematics (XH)
Relationship Length: A little over 2 years
Social Media: @ivydavenport @hixpectations
When and how did you guys meet?
XH: We met our freshmen year, spring 2013, in our English class. Ivy and I had new members presentations for our respective Greek Life organizations, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated and Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Incorporated on March 26, 2013. The following morning in English we introduced ourselves and as they say the rest is history!
What characteristic do you love and admire most about each other? And why?
ID: I love Xavier’s ambition. Xavier has held numerous leadership positions on campus as well as in his fraternity and this has shown me that not only is he willing to excel at various tasks, he is willing to give back to the campus/community to leave his legacy at NC A&T SU.
XH: I admire Ivy’s loving personality and sincerity. As a person that usually doesn’t express my emotions a lot, Ivy has really helped me trust and open up to her. She has really played a pivotal role in my growth as a man.
What annoys you about each other & how do you not let it disrupt your relationship?
ID: I get annoyed when Xavier tries to dictate different aspects of my life. He will weigh in on different things that arise during my day and give his opinion even when it was not asked. However, I appreciate it because it shows me he cares.
XH: I wouldn’t say that it annoys me, but it has been a hard time adjusting to how sensitive she can be to certain things. There have been times that I say something I think is harmless and she may take offense to how I say it. However, our communication has helped us work pass this.
How do you guys deal with disagreements effectively?
ID: If an argument comes up we take a break from speaking with each other to calm down and then resume the conversation once we are in a better state of mind.
In college a lot of people and flings come and go, what was it that made you realize you actually wanted to be in a relationship with one another?
XH: We understand that the love we have for one another is true and no matter what, we were meant to be.
What’s your favorite memory together?
ID: Our favorite memory together is the first Valentine’s Day we spent together. This was the day that we first said “I love you” to one another.
A lot of couples have a special song and/or movie, do you two have one?
XH: A special song that we share is “Teach Me How To Love”- Musiq Soulchild.
If you could go on a double date with either couple, which would it be? (Will & Jada, Bey & Jay, Nicki & Meek, or Michelle & Obama)
ID: Our first choice would definitely be President & First Lady Barack and Michelle Obama. Since I was given the name “First Lady of NCAT”, it would be nice to meet the First Lady of the United States.
What advice would you give the girl/guy who has trouble approaching someone they’re interested in?
XH: I would tell them to just go for it, you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
ID: To the ladies, I would tell them that the right guy will find you at the right time so just be patient.
What advice would you give other college couples?
ID/XH: Major key; don’t give outsiders the opportunity to cause problems inside of your relationship. Make sure to keep your business between you two.
Lastly, any Valentine’s Day plans?
ID: Since this is our third V-Day together, we decided to cook dinner together and go to the movies.