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The Struggle of Having RBF

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Muhlenberg chapter.

For those of you who don’t know, RBF stands for Resting Bitch Face.

It’s a real thing. We all have that one friend people say is intimidating or they’re scared of. But why? Do they even know your friend? One of my friends said that because of her RBF “everyone thinks I’m angry all the time”. And guess what – she’s not!

I’ve been approached on multiple occasions where people ask me about my closest friends and say things like Is she mean? I hear people hate her. What the hell? The people that says these things don’t even know my friend, so who are they to say those things? How can you hate someone you don’t even know?

Resting Bitch Face is for real. People automatically assume you hate them, you’re a mean person, or are mad at the freaking world all the damn time when they see your face. Key word here is assume. A big issue with RBF is people judge you without knowing you because they think you’re being judgy. Ironic, no? Just because someone’s resting face looks bitchy doesn’t make them a bitch. And people can’t just assume especially without never having talked to that person.

I, too, struggle with RBF. My high school English teacher said I gave her heartburn and that she was scared of me. Mind you, I never talked in her class and just sat there listening. Still convinced it’s because I wear eyeliner, but nonetheless it was because of my RBF. A forty-something year old woman was scared of, me?

Resting Bitch Face isn’t even a new thing at this point in time. The term has been formalized. Which means knowing to identify one should be second nature.

A close friend of mine struggles real hard with RBF. I mentioned earlier that people ask me too frequently if she’s a mean person and I hear people say they hate her and they don’t even know her. Why is her face putting people off? What happened to don’t judge a book by its cover? If those few people were to stop judging her based off her resting facial expression, maybe they would attempt to get to know her and realize that her RBF does not define her as a person.

Has this happened to you, too? I think we can agree that at some point in time someone has probably asked you why are you mad? or are you okay? But the problem is that you totally know they’re asking you this because you have a resting bitch face and when you respond saying no or you’re fine they don’t believe you. It’s actually a struggle having a resting bitch face because people assume and make judgements about you without knowing you and you’re just left sitting there like what! I didn’t even do anything!

Having an RBF is a real struggle, so we as women need to stop hating on one another because one looks angry or like a bitch.

Jordyn Kamis

Muhlenberg '21