Robbie: It sounds as though there was some sort of miscommunication there. I think he may have been under the impression that you guys were friends with benefits, while you thought it was going somewhere. In situations like this, its best to set some sort of ground rules, or at least have an idea of where the relationship is going. Two people can be friends with benefits, but hanging out sober/during the day and talking a lot when you’re not hooking up can some times confuse things. I feel like you should let this guy know how you’re feeling, and how it got that way. Hopefully you guys can either continue what you have going, decide to be just friends, or maybe try going out. I just think it comes down to a matter of miscommunication, and not knowing what the other wants. I would suggest clearing up both of those matters: figuring out where the miscommunication happened, and figuring out what you both want and coming to some sort of agreement/compromise.
Bri: I agree with Robbie. I think there’s definitely some sort of miscommunication and assumptions going on right there. If you guys haven’t hooked up sober, I’m going to go with him assumes your drunk friends with benefits or something along those lines. I’d say talk to your really good friend and make sure your feelings are known with her so you can prevent drama with her before it begins and then maybe talk to him, if you feel it’s worth it. Communication is huge in situations like this.
My girlfriend of about a year and a half broke up with me to “find herself” and said she was into some other. Then she took it all back and said she was confused and stressed. I broke up with her at that point because she always says that.
Robbie: If you’re dating someone who’s stress is always stressing you out, then maybe it is best to just not be together. Everyone gets stressed at some point, but two people in a relationship have to be able to balance each other out. One person has to be able to calm the other person down/keep them grounded and make them happy again. If someone is always confused, then why bother? That just makes it sound like they don’t know what they want. My advice, find someone who is certain about what they want out of their relationship with you, and keeps you balanced.
Bri: This doesn’t sound like a very healthy relationship if you ask me. Relationships shouldn’t bring stress. Relationships should make you happy and want to be around the person you’re into and not include all that confusion that you’ve mentioned. I think maybe breaking up would be best until you’re both 100% sure of what you want, not only from each other, but from yourselves as well.