I asked my best friend for the truth about something, simply to see if he would give me a straight answer. I already knew the answer, so knew that he lied. What should I do?
Robbie: If it’s something that means a lot to you and it bothers you that he lied, then call him out on it. He’s just going to keep doing it to you or other people in one way or another if you just let it go, and he’ll never learn his lesson. When you confront your friend, don’t blow up at them. Just let him know that you know that he lied, that it bothers you and why it bothers you. Hopefully he apologizes to you and never does it again.
Bri: I’m gonna go with Robbie on this one. I don’t know about you, but there’s nothing that bothers me more than when I know I’m being blantantly lied to. Before you even confront him, make sure your source is 100% correct. You don’t want to confront him and possibly ruin a friendship because whoever told you the “correct answer” was, in fact, wrong. After you’ve made sure your source is correct, then calmly confront him, let him know you know the truth and ask why he lied. Hopefully it’s something you guys can move past and not hold any sort of grudge over.
I broke up with my best friend, but we still see each other all over campus. Tips to stay civil? I still want to talk, even if we’ll never be best friends again.
Robbie: Reach out to her and let her know that. Also apologize one more time for how everything turned out. From, there give each other space to go and do your own thing. When the time is right, you both will reconnect and be back on speaking terms. Perhaps it won’t be quite the same as it used to be, but it’s better than nothing. Also, if you both cross paths, don’t be weird and try to avoid eye contact. Just say hello and say something along the lines of, “How’s everything going?” and keep going on with what you were doing.
Bri: Millersville is can be a small world and that alone can make life awkward. Like Robbie said, reach out to them and make it known you’d at least like to be civil and friendly. I don’t know the ground on which you guys broke up, but if it ended badly and your friend doesn’t want to even acknowledge you, you’ll have to respect that or it’ll only make matters worse. Sometimes time needs to fix things before you can.
My best friend and I are fighting over a guy. He only likes one of us. Help?
Robbie: You and your friend might want to take a step back and put the whole thing in perspective. Is losing your best friend really worth the potential relationship with this guy? What if you guys stop being friends, one of you dates this guy, then breaks up with him a few months later? You’re down a relationship AND you’re down a best friend to vent about it to. I believe that true best friends are irreplaceable and that no guy should come between that. The same goes for guy friends fighting over a girl.
Bri: Touchy situation. Talk to your friend. Which one of you does he like? If both of you are okay with him dating the other one, then go for it. If both aren’t, evaluate your friendship and really debate whether or not this is something you want to risk losing.