And they lived happily ever after.
Have you ever wondered what happens after the final scene of your favorite movie ends and the black screen comes up with a sign saying, “the end”? Is that the end? Blame it on the movies we grow up watching for tricking us. But usually, the main adventure comes after the supposed “end.” It is when the effort to continue the relationship working or maintaining that happiness level happens. Do not get me wrong; this does not mean it is a bad thing. On the contrary, endings can actually be awesome because every end is a new beginning.
When a phase of our lives ends, it is challenging. I know I have been there. When someone you love is not part of a new chapter anymore, everything seems out of place. When you did not get that job offer you dreamed of, you lost track. But remember all the times things went wrong to go right. Every time a door closes, a window opens. If you search for it, you will find a crack of light showing which way to go.
It can be hard to fully accept endings or even get closure on things that you should have already solved in your past. To do that, we must take our time to find that peace inside of us and trust me; you will know when it is time to get things straight and close that chapter once and for all. When you feel ready from the inside, you may take further external actions to set yourself free finally. But like any change in our lives, it first comes from the inside—your essence and in your time. Because that is all endings are: you oversee your story plot, and it will be when you decide that should be the end. When we realize things depend more on us than anything else, it gets easier.
Imagine a movie that you wish had gone longer or ended sooner because the actual end was wrong for you. Well, the same in life. The endings are very personal. Only we know when we put that final dot in one of our life chapters, and that is fine if it was not in the same sentence others would do or have done. All that matters is how you take that memory with you, and if you are not ready yet, someday you will be more prepared than ever, and it will be awesome.
The truth is that the end will never come until you feel it is, indeed, the end for you. But when you get to that point and realize it is time to close that chapter of your life, whatever that may be (career, relationships, old habits), you will feel closure. It is challenging to talk about closure because everyone feels differently about it. Yet, the main thing about closure is that only you will know what needs to be done to reach that final dot, and it can be challenging, but you will get there, even if it is by yourself, and it hurts a little. Better to get the truth than live in wonder.
But let me tell you why I always thought endings were awesome. Every time I reached a point in my life where I felt a new phase was starting, I felt empowered. I felt in charge of writing my latest story, with new people, in a new place, with a new version of me. I could not wait to meet her. I could not wait for all the adventures and the many memories I would carry to the following chapters. Most of all, I knew that I would face challenges, and although it can be kind of terrifying, it is also exciting. What will I learn next? The best part is that you can choose how to write your story—good or bad—the choice is yours.
Remember when I mentioned that endings only happen when we genuinely feel it is time to close that chapter? That is when magic happens. Because once you realize that you are over that phase, situation, or whatever it may be, you will become open to new things in your life, and that could only be exciting. It may sound cliché, but when we feel from the inside that we are ready for our next adventure, the Universe aligns everything to make sure to give you what you need at that moment. So, if you are dealing with an ending right now, get ready. Get ready to change gears and be open to happiness ever after.
Who says “the end” is when everyone should be happy? Start seeing every end as a new beginning of a new chapter in your life. Happiness continues ever after the breakup, the big “no,” the obstacles, the challenges, the goodbye. Because endings are just pathways to lead to amazing things if we are open to seeking them.
Seek a powerful ending, and most of all, one that contributes to an awesome life story.