It is evident that not every guy you date is going to be prince charming. In order to find out if he is, or isn’t, you need to get to know him and see the signs. When I say see the signs, I mean, don’t get too caught up on all the nice things he says. Yes, that sounds a bit pessimistic but it’s the reality. It’s best to be safe than sorry! With the “Take Back the Night Rally” this week on campus, I wanted to remind you all of the different types of abuse. Abuse does not only mean getting hit, and that’s why some of us do not even notice we are being abused.
Physical Abuse: This is the most obvious type of abuse. If any guy hits you, don’t try to make excuses for him. If either in the relationship feels that it is necessary to hit the other, this is more than enough reason to know that the two should not be together. If your friend is in a physical abusive relationship, she most likely has bruises. She will hide them but you will notice a change in her behavior.
Emotional Abuse: Each individual should respect one another equally. This is sometimes tough because our opinions in what “respect” usually varies. If a guy calls you fat or stupid ladies don’t stick around. He is definitely not worth it. Ask yourself this. If he thinks these things then why is he still dating me? Kick that guy to the curb.
Sexual abuse:Someone suffering from this type of abuse will be forced to have sex with their significant against his/her will. This includes is any form of touching, intercourse, or exploitation of your body. In situations like these, one may feel ashamed and obliged to consent to having sexual intercourse.
Both men and women can be part of an abusive relationship. If you or any of your friends is or has experienced any type of abuse, keep in mind that you are not alone. Abusive relationships are common but avoidable. Seek help and realize that you are worthy and deserve to be in a healthy, non-abusive relationship. Take Back the Night today and advocate for this critical issue.